- he has no energy
- he has no drive
- he tuts at everything
- he very rarely helps out at home
- he promises to do things which he never does and gets upset when I remind him
- he never initiates or wants sex and is happy for me to sort him out
- when we try to talk he turns away from me or walks out of the room
- he does not offer support when it is desperately needed, instead turns it round to how it makes him feel ( when sometimes a third party desperately needs support)
- he says all the issues in our relationship are my fault ( I had an affair 3 yrs ago because I was fed up if being treated like a propstitute, I know that's not an excuse)
- he has been depressed for many years and yet refuses to get counselling
- he has no friends and yet constantly criticises mine
- he rarely sees his family
- he's keen to say we don't have anything to talk about because we don't care about each other and yet I try many, many times and fail
- he won't have sex with me so we won't have children ( that's been an issue for 11 yrs)
- just venting because he says that our relationship souring is all my fault. I never realised when I met him (I was a child) our lives would turn out like this. So, so fed up.
Not really sure what I'm asking but comments would be welcomed- our relationship has not changed post affair - it has unfortunately remained exactly the same