I have a friend, we'll call her Sue. She's not particularly a close friend but she would probably say that she was IYSWIM. Our childen are friends and we live nearby so we help each other out with picking up from school etc and go out socially sometimes.
There have been a few occasions over the last few months or so where I have started a thread about my concerns about her - quite needy and very "in your face" but also very flakey - not turning up to things she said she would and letting people down etc but it's turnied into a big moan so I've deleted them!
Anyway - she recently told me that she was leaving her husband and has told lots of people about this including saying that our mutual group of friends are not being supportive and have told her she is being selfish and should stick out her marriage no matter what.
As far as I am aware, no-one has said this to her - I do know that no-one has said "yes, leave him if you don't love him anymore" but I hope we have been trying to get her to see both sides of the story especially as we have 2 friends whose husbands have recently left themand have realy been through the wringer.
She sent me an email this evening, with 2 other friends copied in to say that she is leaving her husband and that she knows we don't approve but there are things in her marriage that we know nothing about and her other friends who have known her longer who do know about them. However, she would like our support and "unconditional love"
I feel very uncomfortable abut someone asking me for my unconditional love. Isn't that something that grows over time?
Her attitude and behaviour has been causing me a lot of angst over a few months anyway but I feel this is a bit of a turning point. I haven't replied to her email and no have no idea what to do or say.
What would you do?
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not sure what to do next about this friend.....
Tommy · 17/07/2011 21:55
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