What is with this girl

[thesunshinesbrightly]

When Me and my oh go out she works in the place where we go... she constantly stares,he goes to get a drink she stares at me,we walk back in she stares at me...it's not a dirty look just stares its starting to make me question is she worried i'm going too see her look at my oh? but when i look shes only staring at me and looks straight past him...are they having a affair do you think?? wasnt sure where to post this.

[thenightsky]

Perhaps she is just daydreaming and not really seeing you at all. I know I'm a bit guilty of doing that sometimes, especially if I'm a bit tired or bored.

I certainly wouldn't think she was having an affair with my DH - what a strange conclusion to come to

Have you thought of asking her? Say, do I know you from somewhere, only you keep looking at me like you think you know me.

[BertieBotts]

What? Why would someone staring at you mean they are having an affair with your husband?

[seeitoldyou]

hmmmm that is odd. What else (apart from the staring) would make you think your OH could be having an affair?!? That's a pretty big jump. Not sure I follow your train of thought. Maybe you remind her of someone she knows or has lost in her life? I sometimes stare only momentarily (try not to but can't help it) at certain people that resemble my dearly departed parent. Maybe she finds you attractive? Or likes your dress sense?

[thesunshinesbrightly]

I don't know but what the hell is she looking at, she does it constantly every time we go in there it makes me quite uncomfortable, she doesnt do it to anyone else i've made a point of looking cause i thought she was someone who just stares alot.

[thesunshinesbrightly]

Maybe i am over thinking the affair bit but that is the only thing i could come up with.

[usualsuspect]

Just smile at her when you see her staring

[roses2]

Maybe she is depressed and on medication. It makes people "stare" when in fact they are not looking you at all.

[mittenkitten]

Er, maybe it's you she's interested in.

[mittenkitten]

Or she's jealous of something you wear or your handbag or some such.

[thesunshinesbrightly]

usual - think i will.. maybe she thinks i'm moody.

[michglas]

Yes maybe she fancies you or finds you attractive, had you considered that?

[Hassled]

I reckon she's a long lost relative. Or you stole a BF and broke her heart 10 years ago or something. Or she knows you're set to inherit what is rightfully hers and she knows but you don't (yet).

[usualsuspect]

or wink at her

[LesserOfTwoWeevils]

OP, I'm sorry to see you're still with this loser.

[thesunshinesbrightly]

She looks happy enough. If she was jealous i would get the dirty looks,wouldn't i?.

[BerylOfLaughs]

If it bothers you, go somewhere else.

[jenniec79]

Have you done your buttons up wrong or spilt tomato soup down your front?
Maybe she's trying to work out if she could copy your hairdo, or where you got your handbag?
Could she know you from somewhere and be trying to place you?

[thesunshinesbrightly]

Hassled - She isn't old enough and i don't steal boyfriends.

Usual - will do.

[thesunshinesbrightly]

jenniec79 - Certainly not! I'm to classy for that . I doubt it i'm over ten years older than her. I do not know her from Adam.

[HairyGrotter]

Why don't you just ask why she's staring at you?

I find it odd that a) you jump to the conclusion that she might be banging your DH and b) you post about it on here before even asking her 'What are you staring at?'.

Curious

[thesunshinesbrightly]

Didn't wanna have to smack her one as i like it in there. Thats the only thing i could come up with.

[madonnawhore]

LesserOfTwoWeevils why did you post that? Is there a backstory here? Seems odd the OP would jump to the conclusion that a woman staring at her in the pub means she's sleeping with her DP.

[HairyGrotter]

Why would you need to smack her?

If someone is looking at me and making me uncomfortable, I ask them as to why they feel the need to stare. This is coming from a woman who works with offenders and will ask outright, no violence needed.

[thenightsky]

Seriously? That was the 'only thing' you could come up with? You have a helluva imagination. That wouldn't have even crossed my mind. does your OH have form for shagging random young girls or something? If he does, then I can kind of understand how you might have reached the conclusion you have.

[buzzsore]

The OP has another thread called 'controlling behaviour', Madonnawhore.