Hi
I'm 25, not hideous. I had DS at 22 and DD at 24
I had a rubbish relationship with XP and basically for 5 years had no sex at all
I last had sex (this is really it) in 2009 when DD was conceived! P said he couldn't feel anything, and it was rubbish. (NB he was tiny in that department and had erectile dysfunction, but went on to tell me it worked fine with everyone else)
This knocked my confidence even further and I basically haven't done anything since.
Before XP I had a great sex life and was perfectly normal and outgoing. I now have a major fear that basically (ick sorry to be so graphic) but that 2 normal vaginal deliveries (and one was a large baby) have wrecked my vagina to the point where sex would be atrocious if I even tried it and in the words of borat himself I think that it will be a bit wizards sleevey. I also breastfed twice for a year each time and gained and lost a fair bit of weight in pregnancy etc and my breasts have gone from normal and perky and a reasonable size, to deflated balloon type things hanging off me, and are smaller than they have ever been (I mean, they are now extremely small). My figure isn't great, it's a normal BMI of 20 or so but not well toned so I still have a wobbly tummy and am pear shaped.
I am just petrified of any relationships now, or any new relationships ever (and there's a nice guy I really like) because if it ever got to sex.. well, my god I am horrified.,
Does anyone know what I can do to either
a. get over my fear, or
b. improve things?
I just envisage a life of celibacy now forever and feel really really past it and awful.
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erm, not friday night anymore,but - lost all confidence post DCs in that department
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addictedtocustard · 16/07/2011 17:45
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