I am reading 'Wifework' by Susan Maushart.
I thought it might be a refreshing change to say in what ways my partner is a decent human being.
My son is now a year and a half. During the time i breastfed him my partner got up with me at EVERY feed during the night JUST to keep me company. We would watch box-set series (Firefly, Sopranos etc.) and sneak down into the kitchen and make ourselves tea, hot chocolate and generally stuff ourselves with whatever 'naughty' stuff we could fine. It was great fun.
He was present at the birth of both of our sons. The first birth was very painful during transition. My partner, odd as it may seem, knew exactly what to do and what i was doing wrong. He said 'you're sending all your energy out the top of your head -send it down' and he pushed gently on the top of my head - it worked and the remainder of the birth was fantastic...pleasurable in fact.
The house-work is, without breaking it down to the level of pedantry, shared equally. A few months back there was a period where i had unpacked the dishwasher, continuously, for about 2 weeks. He then SPONTANEOUSLY began unpacking it all the time. I sarcastically remarked 'oh, i thought you'd forgotten where the dishwasher was, dear' and he said 'yeah, i suddenly thought it must be a real hassle to do a job like that all the time and just having a break can make the drudgery of domestic life so much easier'.
He changes as many nappies as I do, plays with the kids, cooks dinner, i can discuss personal subjects with him as well as get a good, intellectual debate out of him.
Naturally he can be a total cunt when he wants and occasionally i wish him dead but overall, on average, he's my equal.
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My Husband Is Better Than Yours...
clarlce · 13/07/2011 21:14
OP I've got one of those too! He was great with the babies and now they're teens he has a fab relationship with them. (But mine's better than yours 
My DH is fab. He cooks weekdays because he is home earlier, ditto starting loads of laundry and dealing with them. Early on he handled the most dreadful nappies with ease and cooked me meals when the DDs were colicky - and walked around endlessly with them in the sling so that I could eat.
When I am away overnight for work (and it's always me, never him), he just takes over without complaint.
We both acknowledge that we are good at different things - I am better at entertaining the DDs and managing their conflicts. I also understand the school system better than he does (he is American) so supervising homework is my gig, as is reading to the DDs (I do voices better than he does). Equally, he is better at keeping the household running - laundry, food, DIY - and between the two of us, it just works. We take big decisions jointly and are able to talk openly about money without conflicts, despite the fact that we do not (on principle) have a joint account.
No-one's DH is perfect, and instead of saying 'My DH is better than yours' perhaps we should all just raise a glass of 
tp our lovely DHs and congratulate ourselves on the excellent choices we have made.
Mine is fab, is a SAHD and does 99% of the cooking and cleaning. Plus he irons my work clothes which is great as I hate ironing 
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A nice glass of for everyone to toast your lovely DH's so nice to see a thread aplauding men rather than bashing them.
I will have to be content with a non-alcoholic beverage as am in the family way. Raises 
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I just love the last line personally occasionally I wish him dead!
My DH is a fab one too - he has his moments, but he rocks, he even listens to me moan, doesn't complain when I wake him up in the middle of the night because something is on my mind and I can't sleep... doesn't even (rarely) ask why the hell I didn't talk about this 4 hours ago... oh and he doesn't laugh at me when I become a blubbering mess over nothing!
oh and he can cook and is good with the kids too
I spend my life wondering why dh never makes the sodding bed, then realise its because I always get out of it after him so he can't make it as I am still in it 
He is fab some of the time, and is very clean which is a bonus!
gosh I wish mine made my knees go wobbly by just smiling at me 
- my dh also likes cooking and adores the kids but not me crazzy - sorry you are feeling sad...
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