I have been married for 21 years and the first 20 were great but recently I get really jacked off when my husband does what he has always done and brings me down. He hasn't changed he has always been a very negative person but just recently it seems to get to me. Today I mentioned our holiday and he knows that it has been my dream holiday for years but he said some very negative things about it and couldn't even bring himself to pretend he wanted to go. He says I am spending too much and I should just calm down a bit and not get too excited. By all that you would think I had booked us a holiday in St Lucia wouldn't you, no I have booked us onto a campsite in Scotland so I can climb some mountains. I suggested we could hire a canoe at £35 to explore but he said I am not made of money and it will be cold and raining anyway so why bother, I wish I could go on my own but I would hate to be alone for a whole week and I have no friends at all to go with. I would understand a lot more if we were short of money but we are most definately not and I seem to live like a pauper sometimes and then go mad and spend money on stuff I don't really want just to upset him. I think he is just a real tight arse and need some advice on how to deal with him, as I said this has never really bothered me before but now the kids are grown up he is all I have left and I need to re asses how we go forward. Any tips?
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