Talk

Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Looking for a dating website where I don't have to..

(19 Posts)
Mummalish Wed 13-Jul-11 07:38:03

write cringeworthy details about myself. Just cannot stand the idea of writing a paragraph about myself, I don't know why, but I just find it a little difficult to do.

Am so ready for a date.

ImperialBlether Wed 13-Jul-11 08:10:49

But how will they know anything about you? Do you want to be judged purely on the basis of your photo?

skinnychai Wed 13-Jul-11 08:17:12

Can you get a friend to help you? Or read through other people's and snatch bits from what they say!

lubeybooby Wed 13-Jul-11 08:27:37

You have to write about yourself on all of them - how are you going to get to know anyone or have conversation on a date if you can't talk about yourself?

Sit down and spend some time thinking about what you really like. Absolutely everything you've enjoyed or think you would enjoy.

Then there's work and all things to do with that

Music, books, films, shows, food? What are you doing with your life? What are you good at? What six things couldn't you live without? (taken from okcupid which I think is fantastic as it makes you think about this kind of stuff!) Look at other peoples profiles for some inspiration of what to write, if you aren't sure about format etc.

With dating you really do have to get to know yourself so you can accurately represent yourself. I used to find it difficult and assumed I was just boring and meh....but then as I said up there i spent an evening concentrating on the matter in hand and it turns out I actually like a lot of things and I'm much more fun than I thought.

Mummalish Wed 13-Jul-11 08:33:19

Will give it a go. It's daunting. Maybe part of me feels a little boring.

ameliagrey Wed 13-Jul-11 08:35:22

If you really, really, don't want to do this- then don't!

There are other ways to meet men- the usual stuff like joining clubs and getting out more.

Or you could go to the other extreme and join a very upmarket and expensvie dating site- such as Drawing Down The Moon- where they interview you and presumably write your profile.

But if you read any profiles on dating sites you will see that most people begin with "This is really hard, but here goes...."
so it's not just you!

Mummalish Wed 13-Jul-11 09:04:21

Blimey, just check out Drawing Down The Moon, how expensive is that! Way out of my price range, so will give conventional internet dating a go. I really want to, so will spend some time writing a non cringeworthy profile.

Thanks everyone.

steamedtreaclesnape Wed 13-Jul-11 09:40:45

You could try My Single Friend - that's a dating website where you get a friend to write about you, and you can just add some comments at the bottom afterwards. I've been on there, as have several of my friends, and I think it's quite a good way of going about it.

27tilly Wed 13-Jul-11 11:53:55

Try Plenty Of Fish, I met my dh on there

SootySweepandSue Wed 13-Jul-11 12:00:55

Guardian Soulmates had the best quality of men IMHO. Especially if into design, arts or other cool things. Found match and dating direct hideous and full of professional Internet-daters.

spookshowangel Wed 13-Jul-11 20:44:21

try something funny instead then if you can rather than writing the same boring i like to read stuff. i met dp on plenty of fish too.

mrscynical Thu 14-Jul-11 07:43:47

I did a jokey kind of what I don't like/want in a man and got a lot of response. This was after posting the more 'normal' profile and got almost no response. I think it helped attract men with a sense of humour.

I hate profiles that say things like 'I like doing normal things'. What's that - breathing, pissing, eating? You have to stand out a bit I think and so think up something that will get a bit of attention.

Makes me laugh when people state they are honest, trustworthy, caring etc. I mean who would put dishonest, untrustworthy, uncaring? Don't be boring is the key.

heleninahandcart Thu 14-Jul-11 10:45:23

Think about what you're passionate about, make a note.
What you love doing, what excites you. Your enthusiasm will shine through.
Humour works well, your personality will shine through. Good luck

Apocalypto Thu 14-Jul-11 12:00:56

Don't write a list of faults your date must not exhibit either.

redfairy Thu 14-Jul-11 14:44:17

I used www.seniordatingonline.co.uk and bagged myself a totally fit 48 year old husband. He said he read my paragraph about myself and instantly knew I was the one for him. His profile mentioned seening his daughter regularly so I summised he wasnt one to shirk his responsiblities and that he didn't mind if his date was a smoker or not (I'm not but it showed me he was accepting and easygoing) So I would say this could be a very important bit of your profile and your chance to sell yourself and say what you want. Why not look at other ladies profiles to see what their profiles look like and what you could use yourself.

Kaelle Thu 14-Jul-11 15:24:09

Just registered on a site one two days ago. It was a big decision and the profile completion was painful. Even sticking to truths, I kept thinking "should I really say this?". Anyway it's done now, and what amazes me about the lacklustre results so far is the number of men who say the geekiest things ever. So called romantic quotes that would just make you burst out laughing in real life, or attempts at humour that really fall flat. Maybe I'm a bit wary and jaded, but I can't imagine this is the right way for me to find a new man...is it just me? Do I sound cynical?

knitknack Thu 14-Jul-11 15:31:54

I met gorgeous DH on www.grownupdating.com (we're not that grown up)...

knitknack Thu 14-Jul-11 15:32:38

oh, and my profile said something like "I'm too nervous to do this at the moment so I'm going to come back and fill this bit in later" which is totally rubbish but which didn't seem to stop people getting in touch! smile

knitknack Thu 14-Jul-11 15:33:02

I think the site is also known as loveandfriends.com

I'll stop posting now! smile

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now