I love DH, but I don't want to have sex at the moment, and haven't for ages. I don't think I find him sexually attractive any more. I work long hours, have 2 kids, and am generally so tired, but we used to be able to fit it in, but recently.....nothing. And I don't even care. But he does, and that makes me sad. He is so lovely about it and would never ever want me to do anything I didn't want to, but he is a bit sad, I can tell. We've had a bit of a tough time relationship-wise recently and whilst I feel close and loving and caring about him again, the sexual feeling for him just seems to have gone.
I am a bit sad about it - I can't have a sexless marriage at 33, but neither can I bear to fake-it-til-you-make it just have sex to keep him happy (used to have to do that with ex, and it was horrible).
Might not be able to post back for a bit, but would welcome some advice. But not of the 'just shave it off and jump him' variety please, because I know how to have good sex, it used to be great. I just don't want any at all. Can you have a marriage like that? I don't think so. But I would never want to leave him. But he will not want to be like this for much longer.
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We've stopped having sex and I could do with some advice
EllieG · 11/07/2011 21:44
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