Hi everyone. My 23 year marriage ended last year - I mention this to show that, until now, my life has followed a 'traditional' path.
I have 3 DC - a DD of 17 and twin sons of 21 - they all live at home and my sons' gfs live with us too.
I have, in the last couple of months, begun a relationship with a woman (A) who has 4 DC from 2 marriages, her DC are 26, 24, 21 and 17. All her DC know about us, they are all horrified and disgusted, and none of them ever want to see or meet me (despite the fact that I knew the 2 youngest before their mum and I got together, and I got on very well with them).
My DD knows about us and is fine with it. I have never actually sat my sons down and explained that A and I are in a relationship, but she spends most nights at my house and clearly sleeps in my room. My sons are fine with her when she is around, they (and their gfs) chat normally with her, and just seem to accept that she is here.
I firmly believe our mothers will not be supportive - I have heard my mum refer to same-sex relationships as 'unnatural', and A's mum has expressed the same view, only more forcefully. The one saving grace from my point of view is that my sister will likely be supportive and my mum is very influenced by her opinions, so might not actually be openly hostile. Both our fathers are dead.
I don't know what I'm asking really - I'd love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation - how did you tell your family something like this? If there was initial hostility, did they come round eventually when they saw you were happy?
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In same-sex relationship - struggling to tell family
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catseverywhere · 11/07/2011 07:15
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