I'm a regular but have changed my name. Ive finally admitted to mysef that I'm a victim of domestic abuse and after many visits by the police over the years and the incidents spiralling to physical assault, he's gone for the final time.
I'm so scared, what happens now. I'm still at home (my house, its council) and I have 4 dc. Tax credits, benefits, work. Please someone help me find the courage not to ever take him back.
I had posted in chat but might nothave been best place to
Write down the last straw for you. Whether you write it here, or in a journal, doesn't matter, but hang onto it, refer to it whenever you wobble. Usually it's the funniest little things that keep you on the right track.
We're here, whenever you need us, we'll help you keep strong.
Well done for calling the police. Tomorrow you could see a solicitor and get an injunction to keep him away from you and if you have a joint tenancy you'll need an occupation order to keep him out of the house. You could also call your housing association and get them to change the locks so he can't let himself in. They should do this for free as there is domestic abuse and you have a crime reference number from calling the police. Google domestic abuse and the county you live in to see if there is an outreach service in your area. If there is they will offer you emotional and practical support to help you stay out of the relationship and rebuild your life. Hope things go well for you, keep posting.