Met an old flame again a few weeks back- been in touch and both of us are now on our own but live a long way from each other. In touch but taking it slowly. Known each other years and years but went our separate ways for 20 years.
Anyway, we did have sex but it was odd. He had a bit of willy wilt due to condoms- bit awkward fumbling etc. But it seemed more than that. Seemed to take a while for him to get it back IYSWIM.
We made light of it and it was okay. But in a phone chat a few days ago, he said that my behaviour had put him off his stroke. He doesn't like me saying what I like. This horrifies me in away and he's really not that sort of macho/selfish guy. He tried to explain that his erections are linked to what is going on in his head ( these are almost his exact words) and that he likes to "fantasise" or just enjoy what is going on- without me talking. I didn't say much- just bit more gentle here, up a bit there- during foreplay. He said he'd get to know what I liked by my reactions but didn't like me talking all the time so much at the start as it undermined his confidence, and he'd like a bit of praise. I am really shocked as most men don't mind a bit of instruction.
Is he a bit wobbly in the bed dept do you think, or was he just nervous and found my talking undermining?
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Oldflamesprobs · 06/07/2011 10:41
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