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Why does meeting someone I like turn me into someone I loathe?

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NeuroticIdiot Tue 05-Jul-11 20:43:21

I need you all to slap some sense into me. Regular, namechanger, due to pathetically embarassing nature of post...

I've met someone (online) that I like. We've only had two dates, both of which went very well, and we are seeing each other this weekend too.

It's going as well as I would expect after a mere two meetings. He is funny and attractive and smart and appears to not be a nutter or an axe murderer. He has been in regular contact and has arranged 'proper' dates (i.e. going places/booking things rather than just propping up a bar) and each date arranged within 24 hours of the last one. He asked me on the second date (after hours of rather delicious snogging smile) if I was seeing anyone else and seemed happy when I said I wasn't. He has given me no reason to think he is anything other than interested in me.

So why am I bloody panicking that it's all going to go tits up? I've barely gone 24 hours without hearing from him (phone or text) but still I'm sitting here tonight thinking 'Why haven't I heard from him today? Maybe he's not that into me? Is he out with someone else?' etc etc etc. I know it's been just TWO dates. He doesn't owe me anything. He certainly doesn't need to be in daily contact with me. But - aaaaaaaaargh.

I'm usually such a laidback, whatever sort of person. Generally very philosophical about stuff, if it's meant to be it's meant to be etc. I mean, it's not as if I'm planning the wedding (!!) - but why am I so incapable of chilling the fuck out when it comes to someone I like?

Please tell me I'm not the only one who loses all sense of perspective or, alternatively, beat me with wet fish until I accept that I haven't moved on since my teenage years and am a NIGHTMARE who will never be in a functioning relationship again grin

Emo76 Tue 05-Jul-11 21:35:46

It's hard to chill out when you really like someone!

Trust that if it is meant to be, it will be

And you are not the only one who goes through this!!

NeuroticIdiot Tue 05-Jul-11 22:06:03

Thanks emo smile

I just hate that I overanalyse everything. I obsess and pick it all apart. That is so not me in any other aspect of my life!

I do a good job of hiding it, but the whole dating thing just makes me feel slightly unhinged. I wish men just came with neon signs over their heads with either 'Waste Of Your Time' or 'Yes, Pick Me' in 3-foot-high letters... It would save me a lot of hassle.

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