I have been with my partner for a very long time. I have always been a very passionate person until the birth of our son 3.5 years ago. The first year was hard work with the sleepless nights and breastfeeding but we were extremely happy. My partner works really long hours which means he's not at home a lot. He usually comes in at night when i'm going to bed and he has one day off a week. He was never a really affectionate person due to his upbringing and always found it hard to express his feelings until a family bereavement, it made him realise. Since then he has become more affectionate and loving but i'm not always in the mood! I work a 9 to 5 job four days a week and look after our son, do housework etc. Where he would feel like bedroom antics most nights or at least 4 times a week, i can only manage more like once a week or two weeks! We have been trying for another baby for the past 2 years without success. During this time i have had 2 laparoscopies and subsequently had a tube removed. Now IVF looks the only way forward. I seem to think it is quite normal for women to perhaps go off the subject of sex due to the responsibility of motherhood balanced with work and housework. And i'm quite sure that sex is not the same when you are trying for a baby, let alone trying for years without success and the prospect of going through IVF, at the same time seeing all your friends fall pregnant! Emotionally, i am a wreck but have to stay strong and positive for the sake of our son. Would love to hear others opinions and if i am correct with the way i feel!!
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luckyjames · 04/07/2011 10:32
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