Advice and opinions needed again please.
Seperated about 3 months ago now
Sold house -both rent-2 boys aged 15y and 13y-one with each which works well.
After all the initial 'nasty and bitter behaviour etc.....it has really calmed down.
I feel so very happy......learning a lot about myself and enjoying my little house...my older daughter also lives with me -she is 26yo.
My H is also happy-shed loads of weight-has really done well in his house, cooks,cleans etcetc. Misses me loads etc-realises how s..t he treated me, also admits being addicted to computer game and depressed.......all stopped now.
I have no desire to move back with him-nor does he with me. Yet we are now enjoying each others company and I really see the man that I fell in love with.
I neither have no desire to find another man.....could do fairly easily but tbh, 2nd marriage, 4 kids,aged 50y.....lots of baggage etc...I really cant hack it.
So does anyone else have relationship like this?? For whatever reason? Alternative and odd to some but if it works and the family function so much better do we really have to do what 'society says we should'?
I know Im an independent person.....never lived on own before-went from first to second marriage quickly.........I so enjoy my own space.
So Not sure where this will all end up...obviously the expense of two homes....not that easy but feels worth it to have an enjoyable relationship. Boys happy too.
I have good job-he is retraining so he will earn good money too
Mad or sad?????? x
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I dont want my Husband back but surely is 'ok' to have relationship again though very different???
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loisebony · 03/07/2011 15:14
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