Can someone please help me find it? I am ridiculously smitten with someone and we've had an on/off thing for several years, I've allowed myself to get sucked back in. It's always him that calls the shots. He reduces me from the clever, confident woman that I normally am to someone that he controls, I just can't say no to him. I really should be able to.
His latest request is money, he needs to 'borrow' some, he seems to feel entitled to my money. What really annoys me about this is that the thing he needs it for is to fund his weekend. This will basically mean him using my money to spend on other girls. I can't handle that, and there's no reason as to why I should. I rationally know this. The thing is though, if I tell him to piss off and see his bank manager rather than me, the bit of stuff he is obviously using, he will really fall out with me. I know I am a fool, but I find this difficult to handle. I know how ridiculous all of this reads.
There are lots of red flags, the biggest one being that he doesn't want a relationship with me, and I rationally know that this is a Good Thing. I can't think of what I am getting out of this situation to be honest, yet I can't make myself get out of it. I'm not sure why I love him, but I do.
I also suspect he has NPD, if that's relevant.
So if you've seen my backbone, do let me know!
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wheresmybackbone · 01/07/2011 11:02
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