Not sure if anyone knows my back story but heres a quick summary from a post I have posted previuosly on so I don't have to write it out again......as I need some perspective on her sending my dp a birthday card...
Had a baby a month ago, My mum was dog sitting for her friend down south, on her birthday which was 2 weeks ago, I put my mum off coming to see us as I couldn't handle her and a 2 week old baby so I said come after dog sitting
She seemed a bit put out but ok, anyway called on her birthday in the evening, she was tearful on the phone saying she thought i'd forgotten it was her birthday, AND then started on having a go about her friend, her dogs, how badly behaved they were (she dog sat for them last year, knows exactly what they are like) and how her friend was supposed to be travelling back sooner from holiday as it was her birthday but now it would be too late to do anything....it was 9pm and her friend has suggested having a drink when they got in, about half an hour away (this is rich as she will happily stay up till 1am at home)
Right so this is where I have actually been a bad daughter, as she was coming i didn't bother putting anything in the post for her birthday, she did ask for photo's of the baby (in a sad voice) so now shes got home, whenever that was and there was nothing there for her. Sooooo shes in a massive mood and not calling me, I am not calling her because frankly I don't want her here and I'm slightly interested in how long she can hold out for.....
I feel like I'm conducting an experiment
And even though I know a normal parent would call straight after their holiday and ask how the baby was and me even if there hadn't been a card in the post I still feel bad. A normal parent would make a joke about how usless I'd been and how you can't get anything done with a newborn baby and how all consuming breastfeeding is......but not her
she will be thinking
POOR ME
anyways she's sent dp a birthday card with a little boy on the front and in kids writing it says on the front "turning upside down makes you happy because all the sad feelings get all dizzy and fall out"
now am I being super sensitive or is this a strange birthday card to send ? just says with love on the indise so its not even a birthday card
personally it screams emotional blackmail but I'm questioning myself cause I'm so hormonal at the moment, what do you think ?
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prettywhiteguitar · 30/06/2011 16:54
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