Yes he loves me but no more than the rest of them! Iv'e been with him for 6 years and I'm totally shocked. I think he may be in contact with the girlfriend immediately before me. But being as he cheated on all of them I'm not sure they would give him the time of day. Catch eh???
Lulumama BINGO! Yes he sat there and told me he is ''fucked up'', just odd how coherent and normal he is in every day life. But he has in the past mentioned when having an argument that ''no one ever under stood him like thingy did'', a girlfriend he was with when he was 19.
From what I can gather when he has left girlfriends in the past for a new one (happened every time) he was very straight up about it. I think it's fair to say he isn't in the least bit worried about protecting peoples feelings so I don't think he is cheating. He is telling me this (having back to back girlfriends) is the reason he needs to leave because he has never had time to heal after each separation.
he needs to decide if he is going to man up, whatever happens, as ilove says, there is a child involved, if he cannot maintain a relationship, he needs to be a father, this sounds like a pattern of behaviour, whch only he can break
I'm furious and gutted. He is incredibly self indulgent but i still love him. I'm not sure I can forgive this even if he does eventually work out if he loves me enough not to love so many other people. It's all pretty freaky.
He also taunted me saying he had spoken to his first girlfriend (the one when he was 15) the other day, like something could happen. I looked on facebook and she's bloody engaged. Not sure why I'm letting my self get mixed up in his deluded fantasies.
If you're still hung up on your ex, then it is sexual bad manners of the worst kind, even worse than doing cabbagey farts mid-BJ, to proceed to getting involved with anyone else until you've bloody snapped out of it. It is relationshipping under completely false pretences. It is wasting people's time.
It sounds like self absorption to me. Poor me. I'm still in lurve with all my exes. What can I do? Poor me. But enough about me. Let's talk about you. What do you think about me?
Arse clown. At a guess, he's actually had one love affair in his life, with himself.
I have seen him. He is leaving. I met him to talk an get the keys off him. There is nothing else to it apparently. And it sounds like the oldest cleshay in the book, he need ''me time''. You know not to be in love with someone he hasn't seen for 20 years. This has come totally out of the blue. In fact we have just had a fantastic 3 days of what felt like being very much in love (sad)
This strikes me as a weird variant of the "I'm chucking you, but let's stay friends" line. There, what's almost always really meant is "I'm acting like a complete shit, but if you'll confirm we're still friends, that means no hard feelings, so I'm let off feeling bad about it, and if you're unhappy you've chosen to be so that's your fault too."
Here he's saying Gee, I'm such an affectionate feelingsy guy I still love them all, and if I dump you and fuck around, I'll still love you too. Aaaaah! Isn't that nice?
I now it won't feel like it now and I don't to sound patronising, but honestly I reckon you're well out of it. You have lost a Boy and can now find a Man. Imagine if he'd wasted 20 years of your life and then sprung this crap on you. Now he'll have to do it to someone else.
Your kiddy isn't baggage BTW. Lots of men go for women with kids.
1/ It proves you like kids 2/ and can have kids 3/ and know about raising kids
...all big positives.
Chin up, this is the first day of the rest of your gloriously tosser-free life. Lucky escape there.
The year before last, I got a message from a man I'd gone out with - very briefly, in my recollection - when we were both 17. Hadn't heard from him in 37 years! I met up with him. He's been married for 25 years, says his wife doesn't like sex and he's always loved only me. How fucking bizarre! In between telling me how much he loves me, he talked non-stop about his wife.
Apocalypto has it right: he's too much in love with himself to love anyone else. You and the exes are merely hooks on which he hangs his wonderful feelings; you might as well be shop dummies for all he really knows about any of you.
Thank god he's dropped this on you now, or you could have lumbered yourself with 25+ years of his self-indulgent bollocks.