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miserable after brazilian wax - this is a bit rude

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fatlittlepiggy Tue 28-Jun-11 21:54:58

Hi everyone
Forgive me if this is clumsy but I'm very new here. I need advice on a very personal issue.
I met a new partner recently after years of being single. He persuaded me to have a Brazilian, said it was cleaner and nicer for him and he wouldn't do oral otherwise.
thing is, since I had it done I have lost all sexual sensation on my labia. I mean, if I'm touched there I feel zilch. If he touches my clitoris I feel it, otherwise I might as well be doing the laundry.
One of the things my previous partner did for me which used to have me begging for it was stroke the fur underneath me without touching me. gone now sad
He's made it clear if I grow it back that's the end of oral. But I feel nothing anyway.
Help pleased, very unhappy and crying sad
FLP

PotPourri Tue 28-Jun-11 21:57:22

Oh my. grow it back and ditch the guy. How selfish is he? Does he know how upset you are?

You deserve more than this. Don't settle. Someone nicer will come along, it may take a while - but at least you will be looking and avaiable when he does.

2cats2many Tue 28-Jun-11 21:58:31

I'm assuming that you are making him have a 'back, sack and crack' before you go near his nether regions too hmm

Do you think it might be time to tell him to sling his hook?

WhatsWrongWithYou Tue 28-Jun-11 22:00:53

I'm afraid I'd be very suspicious of any man who insisted on this - implies he thinks it's dirty 'down there.'
You say you've been on your own for years - is it really worth being with a partner who places conditions like this on you?
Can't advise on the lack of sensation; I suppose just hope it comes back when the hair grows back?

lazarusb Tue 28-Jun-11 22:01:11

He sounds like a real catch. Having pubic hair is normal ffs. He would rather you lost sensation and are miserable by insisting on this? Please get rid of him, he is an arsehole.

fatlittlepiggy Tue 28-Jun-11 22:02:33

thank you
potpourri yes, he knows I'm upset and just don't think he cares
2cats2many - are you kidding me? the hair on his shoulders is like an inch long

fuckmepinkandCALLmegoran Tue 28-Jun-11 22:02:53

I'd be getting him a ticket to the far side of fuck - one way

He's an arse.

cleverything Tue 28-Jun-11 22:03:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

fatlittlepiggy Tue 28-Jun-11 22:03:57

thank you to whatswrongwithyou and lazarub too... starting to sense a theme lol. you have made me feel better thank you

PrinceHumperdink Tue 28-Jun-11 22:04:12

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Bogeyface Tue 28-Jun-11 22:05:00

Get rid of him! Quite apart from his obvious issues about "down there" he is a selfish prick and you deserve better.

Oh and when you dump him tell him its because, brazilian or not, he is shit in bed and to quote your own words "you might aswell be doing the laundry" grin

2cats2many Tue 28-Jun-11 22:05:52

In that case he's not only an arsehole- he's a hairy arsehole.

I'm always very suspicious of men who want women to look pre-pubescently hairless. Don't they realise that grown up women are SUPPOSED to have hair down there?

fatlittlepiggy Tue 28-Jun-11 22:05:57

god, thank you everyone, I was starting to think it was me that was abnormal. single for too long....

Bogeyface Tue 28-Jun-11 22:06:24

a ticket to the far side of fuck grin

Love it! That is my new phrase of the week!

fuckmepinkandCALLmegoran Tue 28-Jun-11 22:09:09

Bogey - grin I stole it off my best mate. It is appropriate in all sorts of scenarios

Bogeyface Tue 28-Jun-11 22:12:30

I can think of ten right now FuckmePink (love the name too btw!), in fact I am considering engineering a situation just so I can use it! grin

fuckmepinkandCALLmegoran Tue 28-Jun-11 22:14:51

I actually snorted wine down my nose the last night we were out and she said to a very annoying man who was drunk and pestering us "tell you what mate, I'll call you a taxi, one way, to the far side of fuck"

grin

Xales Tue 28-Jun-11 22:21:07

A brazilian is no proof of cleanliness! What a load of tosh he is spouting.

Someone who showers and washes properly and has hair is going to be much cleaner than someone with a brazilian who doesn't bother washing for a week!

I get that it can be nicer for a man if it is smooth and he doesn't get a mouthful of 4 inch pubes.

Can you try a compromise of trimmed if you are happy to do that? After all that is what relationships are give and take.

If he says no, nothing or no oral I would say bye as it is the thin end of the wedge and what will he not compromise on next?

Although as he doesn't seem to care I don't think you should hang around anyway sad

lazarusb Tue 28-Jun-11 22:28:37

I once had a 'friend' who wanted me to do that. I told him I'd do it if he did. He bloody did! shock

I reneged on the deal and dumped him. Far too much effort - it's only sex. grin He clearly isn't a 'giver', please dump on him. See what he bloody thinks of that.

Gay40 Tue 28-Jun-11 22:40:56

I can't wait to use the Far Side Of Fuck phrase.

HHLimbo Tue 28-Jun-11 22:45:32

He sound like a complete turn-off.

"might as well be doing the laundry." grin

Gay40 Tue 28-Jun-11 22:47:33

Yes. I meant to add: tell him to take his shaved fanny fantasies elsewhere. Especially if you know what works for you and clearly that aint it.

CareyFakes Wed 29-Jun-11 07:23:41

What a tool. I like mine bald, or with a strip of hair depending. I don't like full bush because it annoys me, but hells NO would I do something if it was a 'condition' to recieve oral.

I like oral, but I won't compromise my comfort so some chump goes down on me.

Have rid, get a real man.

Lucyinthepie Wed 29-Jun-11 07:35:05

Someone above suggested compromise. Why compromise with a prat like this? Surely you only compromise for someone who is worth it?

MilkandWine Wed 29-Jun-11 08:26:51

You boyfriend sounds like a prize bell end OP!

Insisting you take off all your pubes before he goes down on you is just plain creepy. As long as it is nicely trimmed he isin't going to get pubes in his mouth!

If he likes women to be bald down there then he should go and find one who is, not force you into having a painful wax done for his gratification. I shave down below and if I met a man who insisted I grow it back or he wouldn't go down on me, I would tell him to bollocks off. My body, my choice, whether we want to be porn star smooth or seventies bush-tastic, it's our decision and nobody else's!

It sounds like this is more about control than anthing else and I would be very wary about getting in deeper with this man. What will be next on his list of things about your appearance he feels you need to alter?

Get rid, call him that taxi to the far side of fuck (so funny btw, I nearly spat my tea out) and don't offer to pay the fare!

Oh and vom at the hairy shoulders things as well, that's a ditchable offence on it's own imo.

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