Hi all
I don't often post on here but read a lot and thought I would post as I need some help. I have a 6 month old and a 2 year old so i might just be reading into something that is not there so bear with me!
So about 3 years ago about 5am dh's phone goes off with a text message. I am a light sleeper so it woke me up and thought someone would only text if it was urgent so I looked at it. Turns out it was from a girl from his work texting to say she was off on holiday and see you when she gets back xxxxx. So I went a bit crazy, woke up dh and asked why a girl we texting him at this time of the morning. He fobbed it off by saying she was just a friend and does this sort of thing. I then asked him to tell her not to text at stupid times anymore as it is disrespectful to his wife which he said he did. Then a few weeks later I saw a text from her again on his phone saying something along the lines of, "see you 10 mins earlier than I thought" when he received this message I was out and not due back until late. When questioned he again fobbed it off and said that he had no idea what she was talking about. Fair enough I didn't take it any further and forgot all about it. This girl is also on his fb.
Fast forward 3 years and 2 kids later....
A few months ago he started to act very secretively about his phone and always kept it with him. Then he came home from work one day with a very sunburnt face. This I thought strange as he had called me at lunchtime
E to say that he was back from lunch and going to a meeting. I then exclaimed about his face and asked if he had been out that afternoon as sometimes he has work drinks that last all afternoon. He denied and later on spilt into convo that his boss had taken the meeting outside as it was such a warm day. I accepted this but only later on realised that roads surround his office and no greenery-where would they have the meeting?! Anyway didn't follow up on it.
So today he forgot his phone when he went out this morning and I snuck a look on his fb messages. Big mistake. In oct last year I went away for a week to see family abroad-I was 6 months pregnant - and dh took a week off too to spend time with our first child instead of having dc1 in nursery but he got very poorly and was in hospital for a few days. So this message is telling her all about it and saying to her that she should cancel her day off and that they will meet another time. She kept calling him babe and Hun and lots of kisses but nothing like that from him.
My question is then if they are just friends why does she have to take a day off to see him why not just lunch or drinks After work? Should I ask him about this? Am very confused and dont know if I'm just being silly. I have no more solid evidence other than what I've explained.
Thank you and so sorry it's so long!!
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