So, things are complicated. H and I have split up. Lawyers are thrashing out a separation agreement, but the general gist is we will live together for the next 2 years, albeit legally separated, and then I eventually petition for divorce in 2013.
Now, I speak to my siblings once a week or so, but I've never ever discussed anything relationship-wise with them, despite H and I being together for over 10 years. As H and I will still be living together, I don't know whether there is any point telling my family about the separation now, or just waiting till the divorce goes through in 2 years' time. I'm not one for big family announcements and don't really think I can face all the questions that are bound to arise. To them, it will seem like a bolt out of the blue, especially given that we've both attended two big family events in the past year.
But I worry about them possibly finding out from other people. I know I would be hurt if the roles were reversed and I found out something like this from someone else, even though we aren't that close. Plus, my H is planning on letting his family know when he next visits them abroad, and it again doesn't seem fair that his side will know and my side won't.
I thought about just sending out a group text, but that somehow felt like it would be a rather cowardly way out and perhaps not very appropriate (given I am from a rather traditional background). So, how best to go about telling them and sidestepping the awkwardness that is bound to follow?
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EsperaTaChikita · 28/06/2011 13:17
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