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affair,stalking ?hypnosis!!!

(61 Posts)
basketswing Fri 24-Jun-11 23:45:56

Just coming out of wierd and awful situation, partner had sex with someone he met on purpose made site for 2 weeks, i found out when someone rang and told me, thats one part of the story other is a tale of borderline stalking to him plus phone calls to myself, his sister re untrue affairs but all with correct info re names, plans and to my parents, cant understand where shes getting info from as amongst the lies that shes spreading theres an awful lot of personal details, he wonders if phone/house bugged but still wouldnt explain everything, someone else suggested ?he was hypnotised. Any idears/thoughts?

catwalker Fri 24-Jun-11 23:50:45

Well, he could have been hypnotised ....
Or your house could be bugged...
Or he could be lying ....

Seriously, which do you think is the most logical explanation?

basketswing Sat 25-Jun-11 00:04:43

I know but stuff lik financial details/ health info of family members, i spose im just trying to work it out in my head of where its all come from, he is being pretty upfront about it all, which is good and bad and cant think why most of it would come up in conversation plus tel nos etc anyway

QueeferSutherland Sat 25-Jun-11 00:18:54

Oh, FFS.

You believe him?

basketswing Sat 25-Jun-11 00:21:20

we have been to the police. They have confirmed that the woman involved has serious mental issues. Had a conversation with his mother the next day the woman involved mentioned all family members that were discussed in that telephone call but no other family members where mentioned

tallwivglasses Sat 25-Jun-11 00:22:52

Okay. I think we need more details.

basketswing Sat 25-Jun-11 00:25:16

we live in a cul-de-sac. the woman was spotted in our road for 5 days on the trot. Items have been left at my elderly parents which included return of his clothes, sex toys and transcript that he and her are supposed to have had.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 25-Jun-11 00:27:16

jilted woman, no doubt.

M0naLisa Sat 25-Jun-11 00:32:40

I don't understand? Your hubby having affair with a neighbour, his sister knows and is telling you he having affair, hubby denies it, neighbour knows all your details and is telling you them hmm now she is sending stuff to you to your gps saying its stuff your hubby and her has used???

M0naLisa Sat 25-Jun-11 00:32:40

I don't understand? Your hubby having affair with a neighbour, his sister knows and is telling you he having affair, hubby denies it, neighbour knows all your details and is telling you them hmm now she is sending stuff to you to your gps saying its stuff your hubby and her has used???

tallwivglasses Sat 25-Jun-11 00:33:47

Blimey.

Actually I still don't get it.

M0naLisa Sat 25-Jun-11 00:37:15

Sorry not neighbour some weird women.

Right re-read and I think.

Weird women is the women he had sex with (maybe) she's jealous he still with you!
His sister knows (maybe spoken to this women/knows her so passing on info and getting stuff from her.
Weird women trying to break you both up
Maybe your dh is also still having affair with this women and she jealous he won't leave you! (Maybe she a friend of sisters)

Your dh is/could be lying!!!

M0naLisa Sat 25-Jun-11 00:37:15

Sorry not neighbour some weird women.

Right re-read and I think.

Weird women is the women he had sex with (maybe) she's jealous he still with you!
His sister knows (maybe spoken to this women/knows her so passing on info and getting stuff from her.
Weird women trying to break you both up
Maybe your dh is also still having affair with this women and she jealous he won't leave you! (Maybe she a friend of sisters)

Your dh is/could be lying!!!

M0naLisa Sat 25-Jun-11 00:38:39

And wtf do you get maybe he was hypnotised from???

[Confused]

basketswing Sat 25-Jun-11 00:40:04

No he is not having an affair with a neighbour. He met some one on a sex site just for sex. It lasted for 2 weeks. It has now ended. His sister knows because this woman (the woman who partner had a sexual relationship with) rang his sister up and told his sister that her husband was having an affair and had a secret love child.

BluddyMoFo Sat 25-Jun-11 00:42:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

nakedandangry Sat 25-Jun-11 00:43:35

No no no: I read it like this

Ops Dh meets woman on some site

affair ensues

he gullible moans/blabs about sister/ parents/ op to weird affairee

she phones or somehow tells everyone all this stuff having a right laff

Dh says oh I dunno was hypnotised. or summat.

nakedandangry Sat 25-Jun-11 00:46:05

yes Bluddy he'll mark this one down as a mistake its certain shock

BluddyMoFo Sat 25-Jun-11 00:50:30

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

tallwivglasses Sat 25-Jun-11 00:50:53

confused

basketswing Sat 25-Jun-11 00:53:17

I know his movements. He mentioned the fact that he has spoken to several, met one for lunch. Only had sex with this one woman. I knew something was up straight away has his behaviour changed. I therefore know that he is telling the truth. He is actually a very truthful person. We have been together 15 years, and his recent behavior is so out of character.

tallwivglasses Sat 25-Jun-11 01:00:19

Oh dear sad

oliviasmama Sat 25-Jun-11 07:26:49

"he is actually a very truthful person"....confused biscuit

EricNorthmansMistress Sat 25-Jun-11 09:03:43

Ok so he's shagged someone who turned out to be mentally ill. She knows more about you and your family than you would expect her to and you are worried about how she is finding out.

Well she might have bugged your house (unlikely)
She might have hypnotised your DH (more than unlikely)
She might be going through your bins and what have you (unlikely)
Your DH might have given her more information than he has said, and might have seen her for longer than he has admitted to. (hmmmmmm)

I think you are in denial about the extent of your DH's betrayal of you. I'm very sorry for you. Keep posting on MN - when the other shoe drops it will be invaluable support.

BluddyMoFo Sat 25-Jun-11 09:16:13

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

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