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I havent eaten for 2 days...

(112 Posts)
moretolifeplz Fri 24-Jun-11 16:12:27

because there is nothing in the fridge/cupboard....because we have absolutely no money!

My partner has been out of work for 6 months, refuses to sign on & doesnt seem to be looking for a job.

I sold loads of stuff on ebay so we could make it through to the end of the month...and he's spent it all. Not sure how or what on.

Although I cried so much yesterday, I think he will get off his arse and do something now. He feels guilty (rightly so).

Im so depressed. Even my 4 month old appears to be totally fed up and all he wants to do is sleep. I think he's totally bored out of his mind as I cant afford to take him anywhere! I play with him for hours usually, but Im so depressed right now I cant even get off the sofa to be perfectly honest.


KatieScarlett2833 Fri 24-Jun-11 16:15:51

Are you working?

GypsyMoth Fri 24-Jun-11 16:16:21

Can't somebody lend you some money?

Crisis loan? Local food bank?

moretolifeplz Fri 24-Jun-11 16:17:57

on maternity leave at the moment - should have said that we are in loads of debt so money is very tight. Debts accumulated by him & his gambling. We are starting a DMP with CCCS next month but I just wish he would get a job or something! That would at least help put some food on the just starting to resent him. I cant bear looking at him right now...

LatherRinseRepeatAsNeeded Fri 24-Jun-11 16:18:55

How are you fedding your baby - if you're BF'ing you really need to find a way to eat something.

Do you have friends you can visit?

nbyet Fri 24-Jun-11 16:19:43

Is there a food bank in your local area? Where you might be able to get a food parcel?

ShatnersBassoon Fri 24-Jun-11 16:23:52

Do you have family you could stay with, until your partner sorts himself out and starts earning?

AttilaTheMeerkat Fri 24-Jun-11 16:25:41

The Salvation Army may be able to assist you further, you cannot go on like this. You'd be better off without this man in your lives.

What are you getting out of this relationship now?.

Your man probably spent your money raised from ebaying your items on gambling.

This is no life for your and your child. Your man is dragging both you and your child down with him, he will end up destroying you all.

pink4ever Fri 24-Jun-11 16:27:35

Sorry dont believe a word of this.If you genuinely had a 4 month old baby and were bf you couldnt possibly go without food for 2 days. You would also beg,borrow or steal money to get some to ensure your dc doesnt suffer.

EverSoLagom Fri 24-Jun-11 16:30:49

Have you seen this - £10 free food offer

PaperView Fri 24-Jun-11 16:32:43

You have no money until when? When you say no money do you mean you have a few £ in the bank or £0?

No tax credits? No CB?

No friends or family nearby?

OracleInaCoracle Fri 24-Jun-11 16:34:58

no food or money at all? really?

PaperView Fri 24-Jun-11 16:35:28

2 posts with that name.

OracleInaCoracle Fri 24-Jun-11 16:35:59

you really should get your baby checked out if your baby is sleeping too much and you have no way of feeding him.

usualsuspect Fri 24-Jun-11 16:37:13

are you claiming tax credits?

OracleInaCoracle Fri 24-Jun-11 16:43:30


Lady1nTheRadiator Fri 24-Jun-11 16:46:42

Can't you go and stay with family or friends - this is shocking - what do you live on normally if he has no job and won't sign on? What kind of a life is this for you and your baby.

Pancakeflipper Fri 24-Jun-11 16:54:13

Why won't he sign on? Is he not hungry too?

If he refuses then you have to inform him he moves out.

MarioandLuigi Fri 24-Jun-11 16:54:56

Have you applied for a crisis loan?

When will you get some more money?

OracleInaCoracle Fri 24-Jun-11 16:56:11

dh is out of work and doesnt sign on because he isnt eligibile (dont ask me why, Ive not got a clue) but we always have food in the house. how on earth has it got this bad op?

moretolifeplz Fri 24-Jun-11 16:56:47

i am breastfeeding - he is well cared for and is not going without anything. Any spare cash I did have went on nappies, wipes etc for him. Im claiming everything i can but partner gambles everything away.

SingOut Fri 24-Jun-11 16:58:01

So... his debts, his gambling, him refusing to sign on. I can see an obvious solution to this one - show him the door!
Hope you are okay, OP. Please come back and post because people here are concerned for you. If you're really not able to afford food, get your health visitor or doctor to give you vouchers for a foodbank. How are you affording to feed the baby if not BFing? You know if you are BFing, you need to eat yourself?
Hope you can access some practical support soon.

QuintessentialShadow Fri 24-Jun-11 16:58:31

Why are you wasting money on expensive wipes if water is free?
Why did you start a family with a man who does not work, and spends his money gambling?

What do you plan to do now?

moretolifeplz Fri 24-Jun-11 16:58:32

Ive got family nearby but Im so embarrassed to ask them for help. I really am doing my best and have worked nights for the past few will get paid a bit extra at the end of the month, which will help. But i cant even enjoy my mat leave because Im under such pressure and partner does nought.

QuintessentialShadow Fri 24-Jun-11 16:59:37

Leave him.
Dont let shame stand in the way.
Just move out. Move to family and then find somewhere else to live.

Whose name is the house/flat in?

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