Be nice to me, I'm feeling grotty which is why this isn't in AIBU. I can't cope with a fight just yet!
I had minor abdominal surgery yesterday as an outpatient and DH was ace, brilliant in the hospital before the op & at home afterwards.
Today, he has taken the day off work to look after DS (2.5 yo) as I am still all woozy and sleepy from the GA & cannot bend in the middle v well or lift heavy things (like DS). They went to the supermarket this morning but it's gone downhill this afternoon: I have found DH napping on the sofa twice - I heard the snoring from upstairs - while DS did fuck knows what alone, and the second time DS was trotting about in a full nappy that I could smell from the doorway.
DH is now barely speaking to me because I gently (no, really) told him this was not on and could he please do something with DS, who was getting bored and, even more importantly, very smelly. So he has changed the nappy and they have gone to the park. I asked DH to drop off the hospital's letter to my GP off at the surgery as I won't be able to do it this week & it's on the way to the park anyway and he said, "Maybe. Dunno. I'll see.". I had to get DS's shoes on as DH just told him to put them on or he was leaving him at home. FFS, he is a toddler and cannot put his own shoes on yet, and DH knows this. He is usually great with him but has been grumpy and off with him as well today.
I know the reason he is so tired is that he was up until 1 this morning on the playstation (I looked at the clock when he came to bed). But, and here's the thing, this was a planned operation and he has known for weeks that he was having DS today.
I feel that his attitude is, "Right, you've had your sick day, now if you don't mind, I've taken the day off work AND been shopping, so it's a holiday and I resent being asked to do anything round the house at all, so stop being a princess and muck in, I've done enough now.".
I've even had to take all the shitty nappies from the last 2 days to the outside bin as he just left them all over the house. My stitches hurt and I can't wee properly. Going up and down stairs hurts my stitches and makes my head swim. I just want to sleep knowing that my son is being cared for by his Daddy and that there isn't poo all over the place.
Too much to ask?
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DH being a tool when I'm ill: warning, longish rant.
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openerofjars · 22/06/2011 16:47
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