6 years ago we met and had a brief but intense relationship. Then we both left for other countries and I havent seen him since, although the flame still burned for a while. We have always kept in touch by email and phone and to be honest I feel he is my best friend. He knows everything about me, I know everything about him, but it is no longer sexual and as the years have passed it has become a really strong friendship - through deaths, divorces and good times too and we email pages several times a week. The assumption has always been that one or other of us would find a new relationship one day. Well now it has happened - he has met a woman who sounds wonderful, and I am totally gutted, I am sitting here sobbing. I know that our emails must stop - he cannot have me in the background while he commits to a new relationship - I cannot bear the thought that in the space of a couple of weeks I have lost someone so important to me. But am I being over dramatic? CAN we maintain our friendship? Does it all have to end? I am not sure. I need your opinions please. I don' t want it to be over, we share so much. But he wont be able to share his new world with new woman ... or could we find a balance? Confused really, and very very sad. - for me. Mixed with a smile for him.
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What do I do? Long term mail friend - ex lover - has met new woman
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bluehaze · 19/06/2011 21:45
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