Well, first let me start by saying I'm a man but I really need some help, I need to know if my relationship is worth saving, and I want to get an impartial woman's point of view
First I'm 39, my wife is 41, we have been married for 10 years, and together for 13, we have 1 child together who is 10, and she has 1 child from a previous who is 13. I have 2 children from a previous 15 and 17.
I own my own company and she works part time, approximately 12 hours per week, we are relatively well off and day to day finances are not an issue. I love my wife dearly and would do anything for her, she has complete freedom generally to do as she pleases, she frequently goes on holiday with the girls, goes out clubbing about once a month or every two months, and I have freedom to do the same, if I chose too.
So far so good...
My wife is very attractive, blonde and everywhere we go is noticed... shall we say regardless if I am present or not. She has become more and more distant over the last three years, and by that I mean few phone calls, texts, hugs, kisses etc... I'm positive she is faithful, but I feel somewhat emotionally neglected. She is not very considerate of my feelings, and has had a less than average libido for the last 10 years, mine is the same as it was when I was younger. So with minimal emotional and physical contact I feel sad, most of the time.
We have talked extensively and I have decided to seek marriage guidance, but she will not attend so I go alone, I need to communicate how I feel to see if I'm over analysing the situation. My wife say's that this is what happens with long term relationships and it's to be expected.
There are so many instances of inconsiderate behaviour and I cannot possibly list them...
My question is am I being a wet blanket, should I man up and take it on the chin or are my concerns justified ?
She obviously has some issues with me, such as too needy, which leads to lol... being mardy ... god it actually sounds a bit pathetic now I've written it down but I'm going to send it any way.
Please be critical
Thx
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Garr · 19/06/2011 04:18
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