Husband going to a stag do update

[joyful2day]

Hi Folks,

Just a quick update. My DH and I were talking about the hen do and he said I don't think you should go, you wont enjoy it. The bride will understand, just tell her that since you been PG that you tired on evening it will be fine.

This got us talking about the stag do and I got really upset, I told him that if I found out that he had been spending our money on strip clubs when we still need so much for the baby, that I would leave him. I also said that if I find out that he has so much as spoken to another woman while I'm stuck at home with kids I will leave him. He said he hadn't realised how worried/upset I was about the whole thing. I told him that the whole thing was selfish and indulgent on many different levels, that we hadn't got the money for him to spend £100s a night on booze for 3 nights, that I was going to be stuck at home alone taking care of kids while he was off lying on a beach and drinking with all the lads of an evening, that we wouldn't be getting a holiday abroad together for quite a few years, that we still needed so many things for the baby, our new house, school uniforms and wedding clothes etc.

He said that he was going to cancel, he hadn't thought about it until after he booked but he knew that he shouldn't be going. He said he didn't want me to be upset and that he was glad that he wasn't going, that he didn't want to waste all this money. He is going to take his brother out for a curry and a drink with one of there other friends who isn't going and celebrate that way instead.

Thanks for all your comments folks, much appreciated xx

[pink4ever]

That is good to hear. I was one of the ones who posted that he was being a selfish arse so am glad he has come to his senses!

[Mouseface]

Well done for talking to him and letting him know just how upset you were.

I hope he doesn't use this against you in the future as a guilt trip, this is his brother's stag isn't it?

[buzzsore]

Glad you've worked it out to your satisfaction.

You're a bit hardcore on him not even speaking to other women, aren't you? Have you reason to distrust him?

[Mouseface]

Buzz - I thought that when I read it, about 'if you even dare speak to another woman, I'll leave'

Is there more to this OP?

[MadameCastafiore]

Blimey I agree with Buzz - FFS the man must live in fear.

You need some help with your insecurity. WOUld you really leave if he spoke to another woman - make your children go through all of that hurt and upheavel because he spoke to another woman????

Agree that if you haven;t get the money he shouldn't go though!

[MadameCastafiore]

And stuck at home taking care of kids - is he taking the car?? Locking you up? Are they not your kids?? Would you not be looking after them anyway??