Been seeing a (lovely - I thought he was!) bloke for the last two months. When we are together it's so lovely. He's really funny, a big talker, loves to cuddle. He's 41 and financially stable etc. etc. but a bit of a boy in some ways as in likes drinking with his mates, gambling. No kids so pretty much all about him up until now. But after the first two weeks he kept saying he didn't want to be in a relationship. So I said fine and we agreed to not see each other. That night bumped into him in town and it was all back on again. So we continued to see each other and he text/phoned all the time. Then he suggested meeting my daughter when the 3 of us were ready which freaked me out a bit as it started to sound serious too quickly and I said well maybe, but not now. About a week after that he phoned me one morning and his ex had been on the phone crying (He'd only been split from her about six weeks when we got together which worried me) and he said he thought we should cool things. He again said he didn't want to be in a relationship (ok that was pretty clear so what was I waiting for!!) but could he still text and I said no that would be confusing. That night he got in touch again and ended up coming round and we talked all night long. He really poured his heart out but kept telling me not to fall for him. He said it wasn't that he didn't want to see me, he just can't be in a relationship right now. He has too many loose ends and it's just wrong timing.
But from then on, Things were pretty much back on with him pursuing me and us seeing each other regularly and in contact by phone or text nearly every day. He even phoned me Wednesday for about 40 mins and we had such a laugh and I started to think things could go somewhere with him and imagining that. Then yesterday I get a text (by the way I was at a funeral, which he knew - so nice timing) to say he was out the night before and had met a girl, nothing happened but she seems nice and he wanted to let me know. Honesty.
I just text back to say go for it, have fun, sick of the see saw and by the way I won't be sleeping with you again. (the sex was pretty amazing). Sigh.
His reply was 'I'm sorry you feel that way. I did tell you I didn't want a relationship. But still - sorry'.
What a dick. As in not a nice way to end things. He doesn't want a relationship but he tells me he's met someone else. I think that's a final goodbye. And of course I think something happened with her. BTW My XH also told me about a woman to end things. I think it's their way of saying 'this is really over' So - I've deleted his number from my phone. If only I could forget his address!!!
He did tell me though. Still feel pretty pants. Not sure why I let it go on for so long.
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Ok, so he turned into a bit of a dick....or was he one already ...
ginnyjeans · 18/06/2011 09:56
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