My DH is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. He has recently stopped drinking and taking and drugs and now regularly goes to AA meetings. I know what he is doing is wonderful but i can?t help feeling it might be too late for us. He couldn?t/wouldn?t stay off drugs or alcohol when we were trying for a baby and then through IVF. He used heroin when i was pregnant and since I?ve had twins I have had to pretty much hold the fort for the first year and a half while he was drunk or too hung over to help or in deep depression and wallowing around in self pity.
Now he is a good man and tries hard to love me and be there for me and the DCs. The trouble is I can?t forget everything that has happened. I feel like I have been a mug to put up with all of this and should have got shot of him years ago. I feel like I have come out the other side of a pretty hard couple of years to find that I can cope and do well on my own. I?m annoyed that I have a husband who does not want to socialise at all. We never see people. I feel like for once in my life I could and should be on my own to figure out what I want.
I just wondered if anyone else finds themself in this situation where even though their partner was on the road to recovery it was too late?
Sometimes I wish he was still taking drugs or drinking heavily so I have a good reason to leave him and find my own path.
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Alcoholic DH in recovery but is it too little to late?
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TheOKWife · 17/06/2011 13:53
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