I just need to get this off my chest. It's so painful to watch someone who I think is unhappy just exist rather than live.
The back story is my brother met his first girlfriend when he was 21 and she was 26. 12 years later, they just seem to exist. I feel so sorry for the pair of them. They got engaged about ten years ago and they've not got married. They had one holiday to Bournemouth about ten years ago. They've lost friends, they just seem to have an existence of "go to work, come home, watch Sky Sports 1, off to work again". They've slowly put on weight to the point where they're obese (I know on its own it's not the worse thing in the world), it's part of the wider picture.
Writing this down, it doesn't sound so bad, and I also know it's completely up to them. It's none of my choice. It just strikes me they're getting nothing out of life, and they could do so much more.
It's so sad to see them. Assuming nothing is going to change, how do I get over this? It's like watching a slow suicide for both of them
To ask him that question would just put him into a temper. I've got to the point where I daren't ask him about things like that. To be honest, I think I know the answer. He's quite an angry person. He left school unhappy, and thought other people there were arrogant, and big heads and looked down on him. His self-esteem is so low, I don't think he could imagine what happy might be.
Oh dear I have a brother who sounds similar to yours. All through my 20's I tried to 'help' him sort out his life but now I've realised that it's his life and he will live it however he chooses. All we can do is be there for him if he needs us. It's not up to us how our family live, although sometimes I just want to give my bro a kick up the backside. I try not to dwell on it and concentrate on my own little family. Easier said than done though x
He's always been a very angry man. He's been involved in a few road rage incidents (although he's a bit of a wimp), and at school had a history of not being able to control his temper. I've seen it a few times since