My DP and I are having a current conflict on the issue of personal privacy Vs total openness. I firmly believe that if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to worry about and he doesn't.
The last year has been really rough for us as a couple, i became very mentally unwell after the birth of my 4th DC and was sectioned in a mother and baby unit for several weeks. DP took lots of time off work and was very supportive in general.
However since my illness i have gained lots of weight from the medication (and was chunky enough to begin with), i'm still signed off work,my self confidence is in pieces and our relationship has suffered.We have only recently started having sex again after a year of nothing.
Recently DP has changed,he has started buying new clothes, exercising,taking more care of his personal appearance,he brought facescrub for fucks sake. He is socialising more with people from work. He claims he feels happier in himself and this is the reason behind the changes.
I suspect that he has a crush on someone at work.I honestly dont think he is having an affair but i am very worried,but my illness also makes me paranoid too.
I recently snooped on his facebook and phone,i confronted him about a minor lie he had told me. I feel totally stupid for 'showing my hand too soon' as now he has changed his facebook password and pin locked his phone.He said he felt his privacy was violated and i should be able to trust him without snooping on him.
If anything not being able to check is making me the suspicion worse. I can feel myself becoming obsessed with the idea he is heavily flirting with someone at work,maybe starting an emotional affair and theres nothing i can do about it.
What would you do in my shoes? right now i want to demand total openness or else option.This is totally doing my head in.
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having total openness in facebook,email,phone
WantToPeep · 16/06/2011 13:58
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