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online dating... Sugardaddy?? anyone tried it?

35 replies

extraconfusedhelp · 15/06/2011 22:40

Basically it for successful men to meet attractive women. Anyone trie it? Is it all rubbish?

I've never done online dating, I'm not sure about signing up. But would love to have a nice guy who is not a looser to look after me, should I do it or not??

Also how long has everyone else signed up for? As not sure how long to do it for? Hmm

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colditz · 15/06/2011 22:44

I think it would be an excellent way of meeting a punter boyfriend, go for it.

Hmm

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extraconfusedhelp · 15/06/2011 22:45

lol.. i thought it might be better then the loosers i keep meeting... Confused

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QuintessentialShadow · 15/06/2011 22:47

Yeah, i am sure there are no losers who sign up with sugardaddy...

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MissDemeanor · 15/06/2011 22:47

I know of two men on there. One is married but a serial Shagger the other is a twat in his fifties who likes 25 year old girls but can't get it up.

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AmyStake · 15/06/2011 22:47

So you want to be with someone who thinks he owns you because he has a shit ton of money? Best of luck!

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colditz · 15/06/2011 22:55

No no, ignore these haters, it would be fantastic to meet someone whose only basis for wanting a relationship with you is that you must stay youg, thin and pretty.

What's that, you say? Biologically impossible? You are concerned he might leave you after 2 years and pay find someone else to shag him? Gosh, how sceptical! Rich old fucks are ideally suited to desperate young women, why on Earth would he lose interest leave???

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Hatesponge · 15/06/2011 22:56

I expect it would be full of guys with exactly the same issues as regular dating sites, but worse because these ones have money, with which tends to come a huge sense of entitlement.

I do sympathise in so far as every man I've had the misfortune to meet on a 'regular' dating sight has been a dead loss, BUT I honestly don't think this would be a step up from that.

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moonferret · 15/06/2011 23:03

Hmmm...prostitution by any other name. And why do you assume that "losers" (note the spelling) cannot be found amongst those with money? I like the "caveman" mentality though..."someone to look after me"! Be warned, the genuine rich guys on there won't be interested unless you are young and very attractive. Note the correct name of the site, so that you can find it sugardaddie.com

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Tosellornotto · 15/06/2011 23:09

be careful what you wish for, money and being looked after is not all it's cracked up to be, I would actively go in the opposite direction if you have half a shred of self esteem and don't want to feel like a glorified prostitute - oops sorry darling I have treated you like shit, here is another handbag!

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Bandwitch · 15/06/2011 23:14

eeeyoooo, somebody who thinks they own you cos they bought you. He'll even have ordered you on line, how convenient for him. how handy for them.

Some rich men are nice yes, but they don't deliberately set out to use their wealth to buy themselves a nice compliant, bendy, perky, grateful, obliging girlfriend.

Why don't you try a different site and say you want somebody kind, decent, clever, good humoured. ?

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Konchita · 16/06/2011 12:30

I know some good looking multi millionaire on there - married but you will never find out (just find my old thread :)))
And I personally even doubt it's glorified prostitution going on there - if men with money wanted to buy somebody / be generous, there are plenty attractive women up for it in real life. To sum it up - they want fresh blood on tap on promise that they have money, therefore expect to be entertained the way they want when they want at the same time casting other potential candidates (and many are in it for the process, not to build proper relationship, you know).
Oh, and like I said if one is not a loser (moneywise at least) it will be easy for them to hide other relationships and wives even.

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RottenTiming · 16/06/2011 12:39

Truly successful won't need to use on-line dating to find someone attractive.

The men using such a website are presumably those who need to use their wealth to buy the attentions of an attractive female because for some unknown (to them) reason they can't attract one in real-life.

Enough said really.

Not much different to attractive young women hanging around bars where premiership footballers go to have fun. One wants an attractive shag and the other wants someone else to pay for their chosen lifestyle.

The age old trade off.......money for sex.

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jjgirl · 16/06/2011 12:46

as long as you where not looking for a meaningful relationship i would say go for it. bear in mind that it needs to be a mutually beneficial relationship. so you need to bring something to it as well. i am not being cynical i just want to point out that this is a different type of relationship.

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Lorenz · 16/06/2011 12:47

Go for it, marry a rich bloke, stay married for a couple of years, leave him and take half of it! Why not, you only live once!

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atswimtwolengths · 16/06/2011 22:44

Someone I worked with went on that site, against all advice. She found:

a) there were those who splashed the cash on the first night but absolutely expected sex - there was no contact afterwards

b) there were those who actually had no money but pretended they did - they lost their wallets on a regular basis

c) all of them thought the normal rules of life eg fidelity didn't apply to them.

Good luck! To my mind, any man who goes on a site like that thinks very, very little of women - why would they want a woman who wanted a man for his money. And I think a woman who puts a partner's money above all else is heading for a fall.

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carmenelectra · 17/06/2011 14:01

I have jokingly chatted about this with a single friend of mine. She isnt really after a loaded bloke, but of course that would be a bonus.Smile

I think though in reality, none of these very rich blokes would be interested in dating a woman unless she was young, slim sexy and glammed up. Why else would would they be advertising how rich they are? To impress young women who these days only want to bed rich men and use the fact that they are young and sexy to get such a man. I know Im wildly generalising. Middle aged men are unlikely to pull a super sexy young woman any other way. Money helps.

Either that, or these are married men who want a bit of no strings fun and can afford to pamper a gullible(probably much younger) woman in exchange for sex.

Nice idea this site, but I doubt their are men genuine men looking for a girlfriend in the traditional sense.

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extraconfusedhelp · 17/06/2011 23:35

Thank you all for the replies, I didnt think it would be a great response.

Just an idea at this stage....

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AnotherMumOnHere · 18/06/2011 10:50

The only people I have known to sign up for the site are greedy prostitutes. Most/Many of the guys who sign up - if indeed they do have money - generally want someone to shag at their beck and call.

Have never heard of anyone finding anyone 'really' loaded just looking for friendship or similar - its always been a bit on the side the guys have wanted.

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Zanette · 18/06/2011 11:54

I've never been on this site, I found my DP on TimesOnline Encounters. I tried a few sites before going on there, but it seemed to be the case that if you had to pay, you got less twats sending stupid messages like "do you like suspenders" or "can you send me photos of your tits"

Aprreciate that SugarDaddies are worried about a few quid, but if you're seriously looking for a nice guy then don't waste your time. If you want someone to pay for a meal & drinks in a posh restaurant and a quick shag, then fine.

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FreudianSlipper · 18/06/2011 15:51

i know a few guys i used to work with who were on this site and would compare notes - that is how highly they think of the women on there

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f83mx · 06/11/2017 17:30

oookkkkkkk......Hmm

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Papayamum · 06/11/2017 17:33

That site is full of fake millionaires. Be cautious.

You're better off advertising on adult work or vivastreet. Maybe Craigslist if you're desperate for money.

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Zaphodsotherhead · 06/11/2017 18:20

I was just going to say - how do you know these men are loaded? They might be exactly the same losers (and you probably will have to learn to spell for these guys to take you even semi-seriously) who just think that putting down on a form that they earn 3mill a year means everyone will believe them.

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Angelf1sh · 06/11/2017 18:29

This thread is starting to feel like an advert for specific sites!

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