Am I being unreasonable??

[mieow]

DH is currently off sick and on SSP, we have a Mobility car which is leased with DS' mobility money, and a Peugeot 206 which we are buying using DD's mobility money. Dh also has a Fiesta xR2i which is costing us £91 p/month. I don't have to pay for the leased cars insurance as that is all covered by the mobility money, and the 206 insurance is £56. He badgered me to get a 206 and I wanted one to, and I can learn in it so agreed to forfit DDs money and get one. At the time I had a little metro which I sold to my sister and he said that he would sell the xR3i. "Great" I thought as we would be £70 a month better off. 3 months on and he still hasn't sold the thing and has not even tried to sell it. He keeps saying that he can't sell it in the state its in but I will be honest and say that I wouldn't care if he scrapped it. We can't afford the insurance and are struggling with the bills at the moment anyway and I really could do with the £91. I have even said about just taking it off the road till he goes back to work so we can use the insurance money, but he keeps saying that we couldn't afford the depoit again (nearly £300) Though he is 25 in november so would be cheaper anyway. He makes out that I am being unreasonable and that he "needs" the car!!!!!!!!
Advice please

[aloha]

You have THREE cars?? Totally unreasonable, IMO, unless you plan to start a care hire business. We have one.

[waterbaby]

I don't understand him either - how can you need more cars than you have people to drive them?
Difficult to say, I know, but how long do you think he'll be off work for? And why does he need that car not one of the others?

[doormat]

mieow he sounds like my dh, just cant tear himself away from his "baby".
Just point out to him that you made an agreement and that it is going END OF.
Phone the scrappie yourself, if you have too, or put ad in local shop etc.

[ThomCat]

3 cars!!!! Total waste of money - you're not being unreasonable - he is.

[fio2]

mieow this made me laugh He doesnt need 3 cars especially because you dont drive yet anyway but even if you did you wouldnt need 3 Men, huh! Think you are just going to have to put your foot down love

[mieow]

I am not allowed to drive the leased car as I don't have a licence, but the 206 I can drive in with my L plates, which has helped me lots and am now ready for my test. He said that he will phone the insurance company HA!!! heard that before. I have every intendation to drive the leased car when I pass my test as its lovely and big and the kids can get in and out easier, and I said he could use the 206 to go to work with (when he goes back)

[mieow]

And it so annoying when he puts £10 of petrol into his "baby" but leaves the car that I can drive in, empty. The leased car has £5 of diesel in it, which I put in yesterday. And we have no cash now till monday when I get my carers allowence. The kids can't get into the back of his xR2i either (too small, not enough belts) so I need the other two on the road......... ooooooo he annoys me

[aloha]

He knows he doesn't need this car... but does he feel that emotionally getting rid of it would symbolically mean he is no longer a lad, but a dad and is a bit scared of what that means? A lot of men, esp young ones like yours, feel like this. It's emotional, so you won't win the argument with logic!

[whatsaname]

Have you tried a bribe... eg tell him if it's sells it for £200 he can spend £100 of the money on himself.

If you're happy for him to scrap the car, it sounds like you're more interested in the money you'll save in the long run rather than the quick gain from the sale.

[mieow]

Aloha, you can have one if you want!!! The xR2i is the one you want really!!!!

[fio2]

agree aloha my dh had 2 cars when I met him. A Golf GTI (when they were trendy!) and a lovely old beetle that was sitting in the garage just rusting - I mean what was the point?

[mieow]

The car has been a total loss from the start. It was off the road for about 4 months and we still had the insurance going and Yes I'll be glad to see the back of it, even if it means losing money. I would rather get rid and loss than spend so much money each month

[Bozza]

if you live outside of London having two cars might not be unreasonable but more cars than drivers is pointless. Especially if things are tight as your posts suggest. I'm fortunate that my DH has a company car and so is forced into having something reasonable.

[waterbaby]

Having seen your later posts I'd get rid of it ASASP - through any means neccessary... tell him he can have a bigger better one one day, but right now he needs to grow up and let go ...
but let him know you'll still love him without it just in case thats what he's worried about! Men!!!! Don't come after me Dadslib, I'm having a very bad day!!

[mieow]

We are in Herts, and we will have to have two when he goes to work and I pass my test but the third one is just sitting there........ Its usually the leased car that doesn't get used. During the day, when we only have DD2 I drive about in the 206, getting practice, and he uses his baby to get about. We use that leased car at weekends ATM but he can't really drive it as he has badly torn the muscles in his knee and can't do the clucth.

[waterbaby]

Has it gone yet meiow

[mieow]

that quick??? You're having a laugh, this a bloke that puts EVERYTHING off till the next day