My husband has lots of 'issues from his past' which occasionally come to light, this weekend was one of those times. We had a bit of a row on sat eve, which I was very upset about as we have not had a row in ages- ( 4 months at least) and he has been quite cheerful- he suffers with depression during the winter more. Anyway, I wanted him to apologise for being sexist and patronising about my PMT in front of the DC. He wouldn't and lost his temper and smasjed something. He has issues with his mother 'villianising' his father when he was young, and thinks in some twisted way that is what I am doing. (I think he is too scared to have it out with her, so is somehow putting me in her place)
After an immense discussion, I managed to persuade him I don't think he is a villian, but he must control his anger and take some resonsibility. He has many, many good points and that I am not trying to villianise him, but want harmony and love in our lives. He needs to see a counsellor, how can I possibly get him to go when he just buries his head in the sand and occasionally he will completely overact over tiny things. I'm sorry this doesn't make much sense! Basically I want him to admit he has emotional issues and seek help, stop the self loathing and give himself some perspective. Ultimately I think he needs to accept he is to blame but that it doesn't mean he's horrible, just troubled.
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Rorogeorge · 23/05/2011 20:27
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