new here, been lurking and reading for a few months, but now think its time to ask for some advice, i
ll try not to ramble too much, here goes.......
My husband has had problems with reading pretty much all his life, this causes him alot of anxiaty. He also struggles sometimes to follow conversations and misunderstands
things. He often starts a sentence/conversation half way through, almost like he starts it in his head then his mouth catches up. When i point these things out to him, (gently and with understanding) he often reacts badly and get overwelmed easily, the smallest thing can set him off on a defensive track. He works full time and im a sahm with our 3yr old & 11 week old boys. our toddles is changing daily, as they do. It has been me that has implemented our techniques, ie behavoir & disepline, toilet training etc. My problem now is that pretty much everytime i tell him
this is how weve been doing thing/ this it what we are trying this week
etc he respons in a way as if i am critasing him and atacking his ability. Hes brilliant with both our kids, a great dad, and i love him dearly, but i
m starting to question myself. He takes every comment to heart, deeply, you can see the hurt on his face. I try not to be aggressive or patronising - he thinks i am both of these things, and reacts accordingly, usually leading to a row, where he point out he has problems comunicating (he is in the process of having dyslexia assesment) I know this & dont need reminding, i feel i have a lot of patience with regards to his problems, but just knowing he has issues doest make it any easier to deal with at times. Im only human and maybe my frustrations are finally starting to show. I dont know how to stop this cycle of arguing......lately i feel as if i cant open my mouth without his mis understanding me. I dont want to analyse him too much, but his own mum is the queen of passive aggression and i sometimes think he thinks i
m messing with his head they way she did/does. this breaks my heart as i would never want to do anything to hurt him. He had a crap childhood, treated so badly by so many people.
Is there anyone there who knows about this kind of communication dificulties? I need some advise on how to help him and us as a family.
thanks, and apologise for rambeling and bad spelling!
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TheLaminator · 15/05/2011 15:54
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