I am an educated, fairly intelligent woman but I only recently discovered that I have been living in an emotionally abusive marriage.
I thought it was just the way he was and that I had to be understanding and try to keep him calm and happy in order to live a half normal life.
I never dreamed of telling my friends or family what he was really like because it was important to me that they liked him.
The last straw came on 15th April (his birthday incidentally) when his behaviour was so shocking that it was the last straw. I genuinely thought I was going mad (seeds sown by him) and phoned my HV in a state. She asked me if I was being harmed and mentioned Women's Aid.
In my mind Women's Aid = domestic violence = physical abuse. I have since found out that emotional abuse can be more damaging than physical abuse.
I feel so stupid. How can I have not realised what was going on? Why have I not been aware of the dangers of emotional abuse? So much is said about DV but it always seems to refer to the physical attacks and I always told myself "at least he doesn't hit me".
Does this sound familiar to anyone? I really feel the need to sit down and talk to other people who have been through the same thing and tried to get hold of a local support group but no one got back to me.
How easy would it be to start an awareness campaign? I keep thinking about how many other women could be going through the same thing without realising the damage it's doing.
Thanks if you're still here!
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NosyRosie · 09/05/2011 20:38
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