Found this to help explain the personality of my BH. It applies to some of his traits but not all of them. Im not sure what some things really mean ...but I recognise some of these traits in threads I have read. The following is classed as a personality disorder apparently...Im going to google more about it:
The book Living with the Passive?Aggressive Man lists 11 responses that may help identify passive?aggressive behavior:[1]
- Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of creating a feeling of insecurity in others.
- Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control or to punish.
- Fear of competition
- Fear of dependency
- Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive?aggressive often cannot trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
- Making chaotic situations
- Making excuses for non-performance in work teams
- Obstructionism
- Procrastination
- Sulking
- Victimization response: instead of recognizing one's own weaknesses, tendency to blame others for own failures.
NOTE
A passive?aggressive person may not display all of these behaviors, and may have other[clarification needed] non-passive?aggressive traits.
taken from Wiklopedia