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Taking phone into bathroom

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RawDEal Sun 05-Dec-10 22:34:55

sorry for name change
would you be suspicious if your oh took his mobile into the bathroom with him when he went for a bath or shower? he never leaves it lying around unless he's nearby and when he gets a bath he takes it in there with him. Tonight I saw the outline of the phone in his dressing gown pocket as he was going into the bathroom so said "why do you always take your phone in the bathroom??" and he got quite defensive and said "I don't, my wallet is my pocket too because I have nowhere else to put them" hmm in an entire house he has nowhere else to put a wallet and a phone while he gets a bath??
so as he was getting ready for his bath I noticed he put his wallet on the mantelpience but not his phone so I said "remember your phone when you get in the bath" a little sarcastically and he said "actually I'm taking it in there to play games on" hmm
so should I be suspicuous then? I have looked on it before and there was never anything dodgy but why is he so protective over it? I know he deletes messages and texts at wierd times (like when he's on toilet, door locked etc).
But I never find anything incriminating. Maybe he's TRYING to make me paranoid??

GypsyMoth Sun 05-Dec-10 22:37:28

I mumsnet in the bath!
So not sure what I'd think

SheWillBeLoved Sun 05-Dec-10 22:40:40

My ex used to do this. He'd spend 45 minutes at times, having a dump, and playing on this latest 'app'. He though, was a lying, cheating prize prick, so what do I know!

Go into the bathroom when he's next in the bath and see if he is actually 'playing' on it?

WikiFreak Sun 05-Dec-10 22:41:20

affair

WhenwillIfeelnormal Sun 05-Dec-10 22:41:43

Well if you've been in the habit of looking at his phone in the past, I imagine that you've already had good reason to be suspicious; that is, unless you've got a jealousy problem.

It's certainly true that people having affairs are glued to their phones and even take them into the shower, but there is usually a whole set of other clues. Is the phone on silent all the time? What other behaviour are you noticing?

StudiousSal Sun 05-Dec-10 22:42:54

My Ex used to do this, so that he could text his latest "friend", that's why he's now my ex!!

RawDEal Sun 05-Dec-10 22:44:59

Yes its constantly on silent and when he gets a text he reads it with the face of the phone tilted away from me as if he's scared Ill see something im not supposed to.
I dont have a jealousy problem, i have looked on his phone before because he went through a compulsive lying stage and the only way I could find out the truth about things was to snoop. now I dont know if hes stopped lying or just got better at hiding it. Oh and his phone seems to be constantly out of battery.

StudiousSal Sun 05-Dec-10 22:47:10

Sorry RawDEal sounds very suspicious, if he had nothing to hide he would leave it lying around.

Sleepingonthebus Sun 05-Dec-10 22:47:57

Mine used to do this too, and twice I surprised him and he dropped the phone down the toilet.

He also used to sleep with phone under his pillow. It basically never left his sight.

He was having an affair. I don't think you're paranoid.

SheWillBeLoved Sun 05-Dec-10 22:49:04

I'd be doing my best to get my hands on it when he's in the bath/asleep to be honest. Sneaky or not, who gives a fuck at this stage in the game.

robberbutton Sun 05-Dec-10 22:49:35

Sorry, that's exactly what my H did. Didn't see hide nor hair of his phone all year, guess why? I really hope we're wrong though

robberbutton Sun 05-Dec-10 22:52:33

1) never put it down -check.
2) always on silent- check.
3) always out of battery- check.
4) read it sitting far away from me- check.

FF

robberbutton Sun 05-Dec-10 22:53:39

5) wouldn't let me use it when I was out of batteries or credit, or the DCs to play games on angry

MinkyBorage Sun 05-Dec-10 22:55:22

I'd have a look at the phone. Get it in the night and have a proper scan. Then if there's nothing to worry about you can come on here and we can all tell you hoqw you have trust issues and you shouldn't have looked, and if he's a two timing fuck wit we can all tell you how clever you were to follow your instincts and have a look.
I know I'd have to have a look.

CoventryCarole Sun 05-Dec-10 22:58:52

Has he recently started doing this or has he always? I have to admit I am surgically attached to mine (i-phone) and so are most people I know, but that said it does seem like he's overprotective of it.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie Sun 05-Dec-10 23:05:55

He is cheating on you

Sorry

He has form of being a lying twat, he is doing it again...and you are not going to like the reason why, I think

GraceAwayInAManger Sun 05-Dec-10 23:19:07

Well, it might not be an affair but I'd say he's definitely hiding something from you - and it's something you won't like when you find it

He could be addicted to a game, or gambling, or doing sleazy online sex stuff. Or having an affair.

I think you might take his phone and hide it. See what happens.

allouttalove Sun 05-Dec-10 23:23:29

I agree with AnyFucker. Find out now, it could be in early (texting and talking) stages. It is urgent you get your hands on that phone.
sad
If you can't hold of it during the day, then put your phone under your pillow on vibrate for the middle of the night and wake up and nick it from under his pillow or where ever it is. Get evidence asap.
Good luck. Hope I'm wrong.

MummyMyfanwy Sun 05-Dec-10 23:36:41

My hubby used to do this. He also slept with it under his pillow. It never left his side, was always on silent.....

It turned out he was meeting randoms off sex sites for a shag 3 or 4 times a week, on his way to and from work.

Check his car and pockets. I found condoms in the car hidden behind a panel.

CoventryCarole Sun 05-Dec-10 23:38:52

Wow at all these stories. Who could be bothered with being that deceitful??

GraceAwayInAManger Sun 05-Dec-10 23:45:21

I know, Carole, it's crap

A very big part of me wants to say that, when you're in a relationship where one partner hides part of their life from the other - and gets antsy when you call them on it - then you no longer have a relationship worth having.

It takes more processing than that, though ...

Appletrees Sun 05-Dec-10 23:47:41

affair possible

not a bright guy definite

Appletrees Sun 05-Dec-10 23:50:19

I would say possibly not a definite affair right now. Somebody is texting him "uncontrollably" ie they haven't gt to the stage of "organising" any relationship to the point of "do not text me at certain times, do not text me for the next hour so I can leave my phone lying about innocently" etc.

That's if something is going on. It's something he can't control, unless he's to stupid to do so.

robberbutton Sun 05-Dec-10 23:51:50

It doesn't have to be the end- me and (sometimes D)H are trying to work it out. But it depends on so many things- his reactions are important. I didn't confront H until I had undeniable proof (his phone while he was sleeping), which meant I had to deal with less face to face lies and excuses. And he has been (I think) totally honest with me since. Everyone makes mistakes, only you can decide what the dealbreakers are.

I take mine as my friends text me at all times and also as there is no clock in there.

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