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What does this MEAN???

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colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 13:39:24

I was discussing my Bf's marriage status with him about 6 months ago, saying that ideally I'd like him to get divorced as soon as he can afford it. (he is still, technically, married)

he said "Well, yes, obviously, but I'm not buyng you an engagement ring anyway" (I have always said I detest diamond solitaires, not colourful enough)

So I said "I don't want a bloody engagement ring anyway!"

"What do you want then?"

"I want a panda. A real one, but very very small, so I can put it on a clip and wear it in my hair!"

The tone was verrrry light hearted and conversation soon deteriorated into how one would stop the panda pooing in your hair etc...


Yesterday, he told me to hold my hand out. I assumed that this would be a handful of receipts (as it normally is) and refused. He was VERY insistant that it wasn't rubbish this time, he promised etc ... and...

it was this

BertieBotts Sat 04-Dec-10 13:41:13

Haha! What did you say? wink?

iTigress Sat 04-Dec-10 13:43:11


Your bf is a keeper!

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 13:45:26

I sqeaked a bit, and said thank you, and we had a cuddle.

I very specifically and deliberately did NOT say "So is this an ENGAGEMENT panda?"

CheerfulV Sat 04-Dec-10 13:50:25

You mean you didn't have the whole 'So where is this panda going?' conversation? grin

Dexterrocks Sat 04-Dec-10 13:50:49

He is a keeper but I don't know what that means. Maybe that you are a keeper too but he is not ready/able to "do that" yet? A really lovely gift. Accept it as a really lovely gift and see what the tide brings with it.

Anniegetyourgun Sat 04-Dec-10 13:51:24

Oh how gorgeous!

<feels all warm and fuzzy>

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 13:54:11

I'm pretty sure that I'm not ready to 'do that' yet myself!

We've been together 20 months.

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 13:55:29

We didn;'t have the "Where is this Panda going?" convo, no.

ChippingIn Sat 04-Dec-10 13:58:13


If I was him I would have been expecting a Yes/No answer to that 'Panda'

<Not sure how you'll wear something that big in your hair without looking like a total fruitloop - but each to their own grin>

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 14:02:34

It's not the 5" panda, it's a 2" panda. And fruitloop is a look I can rock <<sniff>>

Oh GOD he didn't ask me for an ANSWER

it's an engagement panda grin


you do need to have THE conversation though!

Reality Sat 04-Dec-10 14:05:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChippingIn Sat 04-Dec-10 14:06:41

Of course he didn't ask you for an answer - you wouldn't would you. You'd kind of assume she was saying 'No' kindly....

However, you know him better - maybe he just saw it and knew you'd like it. Perhaphs we're crediting him with too much... ummm... depth?!

ChippingIn Sat 04-Dec-10 14:07:57

Oh and I'm sure you can rock having a panda in your hair - I, on the other hand, would look like I'd forgotten to check for stray animals before leaving the house.

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 14:09:07

I think, if the presenting of the panda WAS The Question, then the squealing and happy hugging was The Answer.

Anyway, I can't marry him, he's not divorced yet.

<<vomits with excitement>>

booyhohoho Sat 04-Dec-10 14:09:16

oh Colditz you know what this means. aww, that is soo lovely. he sounds wonderful. keep him. and if you don't, send him my way grin

booyhohoho Sat 04-Dec-10 14:09:30

your BF i mean. i don't want a panda.

colditz Sat 04-Dec-10 14:11:35

Is it an engagement panda?

How can I even ASK that question?

How can I approach my boyfriend and say "You know the tiny plastic panda you gave me? Is it an Engagment Panda?"

How do you ASK that question? What if he thinks I am a complete mentalist and runs away as fast as he can to the nearest therapy circle where he weeps at the others "I bought my girlfriend a small plastic animal that she had vaguely said she liked and she assumed it meant I wanted to MARRY her, the confuzzled harriden!!!!"

AllOverIt Sat 04-Dec-10 14:13:45

How romantic! Cheered me right up! grin

BertieBotts Sat 04-Dec-10 14:13:58

I think you should buy this for him and see what he says!

BertieBotts Sat 04-Dec-10 14:14:32

Ooh or this one is rather more "bling".

ItalianLady Sat 04-Dec-10 14:17:00

Ask him when you should start telling people..

mummyshreddingnora Sat 04-Dec-10 14:18:41

I am EXCITED and I don't even know why!!!! I would just make a joke of it ie

'we really should set a date dp'
'for when we join pandas!'


he'll either assume your joking or say - oh you got the hint then!

ChippingIn Sat 04-Dec-10 14:19:39

FP - does this (holding Panda) mean what I think it means or am I reading too much into it?

Should be fairly harmless....

Of course - would have been easier at the time.

But do you feel you gave 'The Answer' when squeeling - which I have to say, did seem a bit OTT for a plastic panda without a hidden message...

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