Really sad about what has happened and just wanted to get this off my chest.
Just found out one of my antenatal group, who I have known for over a year, has invited the others out to a big evening do and not included me; the others mentioned it without realising I had not been asked.
I realise she can invite who she wants, but feel sad as I thought we were becoming a tight-knit group and that I had finally found a bunch of friends locally. We had been through lots of ups and downs together, that I really thought had bonded us.
I won't feel so comfortable meeting up in future as this feels like she doesn't see me as a genuine friend, and I won't feel able to be open about things now. I'd suspected she had her reservations about me and this has just confirmed it.
Why I can't just take it on the chin, is that it feels like this happens a lot to me. Going back to my earliest friendship, as a small child, then in secondary school and then in university.. there always ends up being some form of exclusion that goes on, and someone leaves me out, and I guess this is just pressing a few buttons for me.
Since university there has not been an opportunity to really make new friends until now, in fact it was one of the reasons I wanted to have children when we moved to this small town!
I'm wondering if it is in fact something about me that makes this happen.Or if it is just the nature of groups. Or just, as the saying goes, proof that you can't be friends with everyone.
I guess I just have to keep in touch with the others and also branch out into other friendships. Sad though, as had higher hopes this time around.
Anyone else ever experienced similar?
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left out by antenatal friend :(
hereitogesagain · 14/09/2010 22:05
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