I am looking for the best housing solution and feel too close to the situation to come up with the best answer. (sorry its long!)
To give you all the details.
My mum in her 70's lives alone in a 3 bed 1970's house, no mortgage, reasonable pension, no specific illnesses. She has had the house for 35 years and her house is in a town of around 20k people. I was bought up there.
I live in a big town around 10 miles away in a bigger town (120k people) in a 2 bed 1950's house. I have a mortgage. I have one small child and normally work in London. I chose this town rather than my mothers town as the trains were quicker and more frequent. I have recently split from my husband of 2.5 years. I owned the house prior to knowing him and the mortgage and deeds are in my name. The discussion isnt about how much he will get when we divorce.
Mum and I have always talked about eventually living next to each other/pooling our resources so I can look after her as she gets older and now I have a child she can help out when she can.
I moved to hers when I left my husband as I had to leave suddenly and it confirmed to both of us that we definitely need our own space.
We then looked online at properties with annexes but it always seems that the annex is very pokey. It also seems that doubling your budget does not get you double the house
My mum suggested I build an annex on the end of my 2 bed end of terrace but again I think it would be too small for her if we could get permission and I cannot park outside my house so it would be street parking which she hates. Although she is willing to downsize my gut feeling is she would want a decent size 2 bedroom.
I feel like the only solution is that one of us move to be next to/very close to the other one.
For me I really love the town I was bought up in and loved staying there recently rather than where I live. Corona has meant I am unikely to have to travel into london 5 days a week and the trains have actually improved a lot. The downside is the local primary to my mum is in special measures at the moment but it has a few years to improve. Her town is more expensive so it would be a stretch but a neighbour is thinking of moving in the next couple of years back to near his family and the house is opposite my mums.
Alternatively she could move here. My town has a lot better public transport and facilities and I am nearer the town but it is 'rougher'. I love my house and how solid it is (I really noticed how thin my mums walls were) but am not so in love with the town.
Is the best solution for me to try and move there or can anyone think of any better solutions?
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Coffeesnob11 · 11/09/2020 15:32
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