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Feeling sad to move!

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Hotpinkparade Tue 07-Nov-17 18:47:25

I feel really stupid about this but as the day gets closer I’m getting more upset. I’ve lived in my rented flat for more than ten years. I’m about to move in to a new place. I’ve bought it, done it up, and am moving in with my boyfriend. It’s a bigger place (twice the size) and in a nice area, although where I live is more central. (Zone 1 London to Zone 2). I am just gutted to be leaving. My flat is so much part of my life, I’ve spent so much time here with my friends, basically all of my twenties having parties and having fun! I feel very safe and comfortable here and there are billions of restaurants and bars on my street. The new place is in a nice area too, with a busy high street, but it’s posher, more residential and less bustling, and a bit further out.

The flat itself will definitely be nicer, more space and better quality throughout. But I just feel so sad, even silly things like making my last rental payment are making me well up! This flat has always been just mine, even when I’ve had boyfriends, and it’s a real sanctuary for me.

I’m also nervous about moving in with a BOY but that’s a different matter really, as I think I’d be feeling this way wherever I was headed next. Anyone lived to tell the tale?

ThroughThickAndThin01 Tue 07-Nov-17 18:51:49

I've always had cold feet about moving. But have never looked back after any move once it's happened. You'll be fine.

Whatsthisabout Tue 07-Nov-17 19:01:33

Me! We moved a few months ago from a house we had lived in for 15 Years. The only house our 3dc had known. We loved the house and only moved because we needed an extra bedroom. The night before the move we were sat there thinking we’ve made a mistake.

But honestly truly we haven’t thought about the old house since. We know we’ve done the right thing and the new house felt like home immediately. Good luck!

HipToBeSquare Tue 07-Nov-17 19:05:18

I have been tearing up for the last few days since we accepted an offer on our house blush

We need to move (2 bed house now with 2 dd) but I am so sad about it!

I hope @Through is right about not looking back.

Kokapetl Tue 07-Nov-17 20:32:27

I was so sad at leaving our last rental place, especially because it was where we lived when our DC were born and when they were babies. Not particularly bothered now. The only thing I still regret slightly is the longer walk to school and to the park!

heron98 Wed 08-Nov-17 09:34:40

I was the same.

I was renting a basement flat with DP that was damp, mouldy and drafty. But I loved it! I had had some really happy times there.

We bought a lovely 3 bed semi that was warm and cosy but even so I found moving on quite hard.

SilverSpot Wed 08-Nov-17 09:43:43

Its like you are saying goodbye to that chapter of your life, of course it is going to be hard to say good-bye.

Give the place a nice send off, be happy about all the fun times you have had and then you can look forward to the 'new chapter' in the new flat with the boy.

ACurlyWurly Wed 08-Nov-17 15:54:53

My last rented house had horrid memories but was also a massive part of my life for 10 years, I had decorated and worked in this house whilst raising my DS, the night before moving I was in a state thinking I was making a mistake. I moved into my new house and woke that night scared I had screwed up and worried that it would never be home.
At 5am I was downstairs by myself with a cup of coffee and started to relax, me and my OH spent the day unpacking and organising and by bedtime on my first full day in that house I realised I loved it again.
Now its my house! No landlord to come and check it, no one to tell me i cant put holes in the wall, all mine (and my family's but ....)
It will be hard but it will also be fun, exciting and a new beginning

Whatthefoxgoingon Thu 09-Nov-17 16:30:18

I moved from my cramped 3 bed terrace to a large detached house both in zone 2 nw London. So not even far. Same neighbourhood practically.

The old house was way too small for us, but I still bawled the night before we moved. So did the kids, it was the only house they knew. You get attached to bricks and mortar. It’s perfectly normal! But I love my house now and so will you.

Hotpinkparade Mon 20-Nov-17 08:15:20

Thanks everyone! The move is now three weeks away and I feel increasingly anxious about it but helps to know that others have felt the same and got past it!

HumphreyCobblers Mon 20-Nov-17 08:24:45

When we moved out of our last house we all sobbed blush Well DH didn't, he just looked a bit sad and patted us.

I loved that house so much, we made a garden there and our children were all babies there. We moved to a better house in every respect and I do love it, but my memories of the last house are still precious.

I am about six months into living in the new house and it is fabulous.

whiskyowl Mon 20-Nov-17 08:42:06

You will be fine. It's quite natural to have cold feet/anxiety about a big change. It's not any kind of sign that this is a bad idea - it's just a reaction to the unknown. Your new flat sounds lovely, and I'm sure you'll be just as happy there in time as you have been in your old place.

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