New neighbours(5 Posts)
Hi all, it's going to be a long one!
I'm starting to get nervous as were completing on the purchase of our new home this Friday. I've been really excited until this weekend as we moved out of our current flat and in with my parents while we do a little work on the new house before we move in. We said good bye to our current neighbour, she's been lovely and we've been so fortunate to have a lovely neighbour to date. We're moving to completely new area about 20 miles from where our flat is to be closer to work and to move onto a house as neither of us really wanted a flat, but we were first time buyers and that's all we could afford at the time. Unfortunately the area were moving to was much more expensive, so to get a property that didn't resemble a shoe box we had to buy ex-council. We love the house, it's got so much potential but it's just concerned me about our new potential neighbours. I never gave it a thought when viewing/buying the house but it's been in my mind since saying bye to our lovely neighbour that we don't actually know what ones were getting next.
I don't mean to be saying this because of the stereotype that is associated with some council residents, I'd be apprehensive even if I was buying in a new build estate. I'm just worried about inheriting neuciance neighbours. I know there's nothing I can do now as I should have popped round before we made an offer. I really want to get off on the right foot with them, regardless of whether they're lovely or not. I don't really know whether I should go round first thing and introduce myself because people these days seem to keep their head down and ignore those around them and don't want to appear odd! Do I give a gift as a gesture that I'm going to be a plesant neighbour? I don't really understand the etiquette.
In our flat we met our new neighbour almost instantly because we shared an entrance. The people were buying from have lived there for 12 years and are moving into rented accommodation which indicates to me that it can't be too bad if they stayed for that amount of time. Also there wasn't any noise when we viewed the property on a Saturday at 10am and we checked out the neighbourhood at 7pm and had a little walk around. It appeared to be quiet then too. Is it normal to be this worried?
Many thanks in advance!
It's a lottery. I wd just be friendly but no gifts or invites until you see what they are like. BTW you cd be buying a house in an upscale area and have nightmare neighbours, so keep an open mind.
Whenever I've moved, if they've not come round to say hello on moving day, then I've gone and knocked the door and introduced myself, and then judged from there on in. I've always have lovely neighbours, but I think a lot of that is the fact I start from the premise that 99% of people are nice, and I aim to be friendly from the off.
Taking them a gift would be OTT, IMO. Just knock the door and say you've just moved in to number so and so and thought you'd come and introduce yourself. If you like the look of them, suggest they come round for a drink the next evening, or a cuppa later that afternoon so you can get to know them a bit better.
Yeah that's really good advice, thanks. I hav s tendency to overthink and worry and just need to stay calm, check them out and go from there! Oh my god, only 5 more days!
I live in an ex council house. Council tenants on one side - couldn't be nicer. owners on the other side - complete and utter fucking nightmare with parties, teenagers drinking in the garden, setting fire to stuff etc.
Just smile and say hi no need for gifts, long introductions etc until you know what they are like
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