I am going slowly crazy and need some impartial advise/ ideas......
My husband and I recently bought a house in Eltham. We have moved just a few hundred metres down the road as we loved the area so much and just wanted to upsize (we have bought a 4 bed semi from a 2 bed terrace). It took ages to go through and I was so mega excited the whole time.... This was our dream house in so many ways! It looks beautiful, spacious, big garden, close to everything.....
The compromises were that the kitchen needs a lot of work (fine as a long term plan and we held money from our sale for it) and that its next to a community hall. We agonised about that prior to purchase..... Most of the neighbours nearby have lived here 20 plus years and we have never seen or heard anything so took it as a compromise.
So now we're in (we moved 10 days after having baby number 2 about 3 months ago) and i can't stop feeling like we have done the wrong thing...... I'm driving myself and my husband crazy as I just can't fall in love with it. The midweek activities in the hall are lovely. It's busy but never a problem. Love seeing people coming and going and groups meeting up. However to make ends meet they hire for parties on a weekend. We have hardly ever seen anything there (we have driven past a lot!!!) but a few weeks ago there was one at it was sooooo horrendously loud and busy. And now I'm worried that that could potentially happen regularly and would be too much to handle!
It is also (as expected) noisier than our old place and is irritating me more than i thought it would!? But I can't tell if I'm over reacting! Is the house good enough to outweigh the compromises???
My gut reaction is to only stay a couple of years, cut our losses and move...... However the kitchen desperately needs doing but would be extensive work! Should we do the work in the hope it would help me settle, or live with it (it's really awful!!) and not even bother?! I don't want to plough money in if we don't end up staying, but at the same time..... How will I ever love it if I don't make it feel like home?!
We loved it for such a long time.... But now I can't seem to see things rationally?!!..... Does anyone have any advise, ideas, words or encouragement?
Anyone else live near a hall?? Are these feelings normal when you move initially or should unfollow my gut instinct???
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House purchase dilemma.....help!
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ElBelle · 12/08/2015 11:26
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