ok so i know why he wont listen. he has AS and once set on something he is totally tunnel visioned...
am hoping he might learn his lesson from this one....?
he is 22. He has a full time job, which pays about £20k per year.
he has signed up for a 12 month lease on a flat. He did not want help and did this off his own back, stubbornly resisting all advice.
i had been looking for him for modern, warm, bills inclusive one bed flats and apartments which he insisted he couldnt afford because of the agents fees etc etc. and wouldnt even look at what i had found.
so he went and signed for this flat....i saw it this week.
he has been totally ripped off.
its an absolute shit tip, not even a cleverly concealed shit tip - its clearly damp, mouldy, the kitchen has been cobbled together from 2 different types of unit, (that look like they were fished out of a skip) there are holes in the cupboards, the tiling is on top of tiling, on top of tiling....it must stand 2 inches off the bloody wall....its cold, its stark, its damp, the floors are warped, some of it isnt even double glazed, the bathroom window doesnt shut properly, everything looks bodged, the walls are clearly damp because they have just stuck plasterboard over the original walls and painted it....it means sockets are buried in the walls.... its just horrible, i could go on....and on.....
he has signed a lease, for 12 months, at £525 per month and then he will have bills on top. The place will cost a fortune to heat.
one quick right move search has found several modern city centre flats in which bills are included, for a good £40 per week less. deposits are no more than he has paid (he paid £525) and many include broad band etc.
i want to show him what he could get for his money, but when i saw the flat he has signed up for and pointed out the crap condition he got arsey and didnt want to know.
he hasnt realised what this is going to cost in heating, its a horrible cold and damp, bodged and hastily painted flat. Its depressing. I am so cross with him for being so foolish and stubborn, this was the first flat he saw - he signed that day without showing me it.
I am trying incredibly hard to allow independence. Is this part of my learning curve too....let him make his own mistakes? im worried this one is going to prove costly. I saw it the day he had his phone stolen although my initial reaction was horror i quashed it a bit because he was feeling bad enough having had his phone of a week nicked....(another thread and another learning curve - hopefully)
he just does his own thing and never listens. When he realises im right i get lots of shouting "alright mum!!" but he still doesnt listen! I want to insist he doesnt sign for anything else without one of us seeing it first...he just didnt see any of the problems with this flat at all. He saw pictures on the wall, and a made bed, and thought it looked nice. now the pictures are gone and the bed stripped....he just kept saying it didnt look like that when he saw it.....he totally misses the point...
i could scream in frustration sometimes. I guess he is going to just have to weather this for a year....then find something warmer, smaller, and nicer.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Join our Property forum for renovation, DIY, and house selling advice.
Property/DIY
Ds (and me i guess) dropped a bollock....why wont he listen!
26 replies
ThatVikRinA22 · 27/03/2014 02:59
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.