IS it unreasonable to raise this at parents' evening tonight?

[MrsMopple]

A quick question - any advice from parents and teachers gratefully received!

My ds is in reception and one of the youngest. On a couple of occasions I have seen two boys from his class target him for their 'attention', which usually means chasing him until he is caught then pulling at him and tackling him until he falls to the ground, where they continue to pull at him. On these occasions he has managed to get away and run to me to be plucked out of harms way. I spoke to one of his teachers after school once about it, and said it was the 2 against 1 that I didn't like and she said that they were all friends and that he should tell a teacher if he was feeling upset.
The thing is, ds isn't confident enough to tell on these boys unless I am there and he can come to me. One of them has also told another boy from ds's class that hes's 'not allowed' to play with my ds, leaving ds alone and vunerable to the attentions of these boys.
Ds has said that he doesn't like these boys because they are bad, and he doesn;t want them to come to his party etc.

I feel that I should mention what I've seen to his teachers and point out that they are not friends and that they are preventing other boys from playing with him, but it all sounds a bit petty, especially as I have raised it before. Dh cannot come with me tonight, so I'm on my own with this one. What would you do?

[MrsMopple]

Bump, I'm leaving for school in half an hour!

[Acinonyx]

I would definitley raise it with the teacher so she can better judge what she sees. It sounds as though she thinks this is more playful than it is.

[MrsMopple]

Thank you - I agree that it could look just like they're tearing around the way boys do, but not when you're the parent!

[witchwithallthetrimmings]

no you have to tell her, imo it the kind of thing that parents evenings are for in reception. Good luck

[witchwithallthetrimmings]

how did it go?

[JustMoon]

I had this with DS1 in reception and again at the beginning of Year 1. I made an appointment with the head and it was dealt with quite swiftly by the school. Don't let the m fob you off if your Dc is upset by this, it is not petty and potentially could affect his progress and enjoyment of school. Good luck.

[MrsGokWantsatidyhouse]

Definatly raise it. Something similar happened to DC1 and the school took it seriously and sorted it out.

[MrsMopple]

I did raise it in the end, but in a slightly oblique way, so that I wasn't directly accusing these boys of what could be perceived (by me, anyway!) as bullying behaviour. I said had concerns over some of ds's peer group relationships and worried that he didn't seem to have friends. The name of one of the boys he doesn't like was given as one of his friends, so I said as much and they promised to keep an eye on what was going on.

When I mentioned about other boys being told they weren't allowed to play with ds, the 2 teachers exchanged a look which made me feel that I hadn't been the only one to raise it with them. They said they would try and do something in group time about beign free to play with whoever you wanted

I'm glad I mentioned it, but will have to see whether anything happens or not. Ds is still happy going to and being at school, so things might not be as bad as I feared, but better to nip these things in the bud, I think.