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Strange adults near school - worrying unnecessarily?

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Amy68 Tue 03-Nov-09 16:41:30

This is my first post here but I have read posts here before. I apologise for a rather unusual topic, but I thought it worth asking.

Recently my 10 year old DD has told me she has seen a man walking near her school as she and her friends have been walking home, and he has been wearing a skirt. Other parents have since confirmed similar stories from their children, and some are quite concerned at primary age children seeing this. Even more concerning, they think it is the same skirt that DD and many girls themselves wear to school, so could he be trying to mimic their uniform? DD wears the M&S box pleat school skirt, which is very distinctive if anyone is familiar with it (3 pleats front and back, straight either side).

Personally I have no problem with crossdressing men, but near a school coming out, and similar to the girls' uniforms, I understand it could cause concern. Am I worrying unnecessarily in the hype of paedophilia etc. Should I inform the school, phone the police, or just ignore it and accept it is up to him what he wears, within limits of decency of course. Is there a precedent for this?

Any ideas


eyetunes Tue 03-Nov-09 16:45:31

i am sure i read a thread about a cross dresser near a school last week? could be the same person. will try to find it.

displayuntilbestbefore Tue 03-Nov-09 16:47:27

there's a guy who wears women's clothes in our area too. Suspect you might be worrying unnecesarily as he might just happen to finish work at around the same time as school coming there anything about his behaviour that leads you to be concerned he's anything more than just a guy who likes to wear women's clothing?

QueenOfFlamingEverything Tue 03-Nov-09 16:48:56

You from Female First?

Flightattendant Tue 03-Nov-09 16:49:17

That may have been my thread Eyetunes...he doesn't wear school uniform though smile

Amy, you could contact the police just to register your concern. They may know of him already especially if he is any sort of threat.

Try not to worry too much.

Flightattendant Tue 03-Nov-09 16:50:36

Queen it does look like same poster but - erm - does that make any difference?

RubysReturn Tue 03-Nov-09 16:51:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

QueenOfFlamingEverything Tue 03-Nov-09 16:53:59

FA, no most likely not but I have just got back to MN after a couple of weeks away and understand there's been some sort of kerfuffle over Female First?

eyetunes Tue 03-Nov-09 16:56:38

flight - yes it must hve been your thread. just re-read the OP and am shock at the wearing of the school uniform!

what is female first? must have missed that one.

Flightattendant Tue 03-Nov-09 17:01:15

I missed the kerfuffle too!

postal Tue 03-Nov-09 17:02:55

it was a coming of age thing when I was a kid

you konw - the local flasher to laugh at

is it transvestites too?

a transvestite wouldn't worry me

Amy68 Tue 03-Nov-09 17:11:30

Femalefirst looks a dead zone, you seem a more lively bunch, although the initial responses make me wonder about some. Only one person even answered over there.

Flight, have you a link to that thread?

Transvestites are people I kind of accept. I just wonder if this is crossing the line wearing a school skirt, if it is indeed. I don't want to get someone in trouble unnecessarily.

SolidGhoulBrass Tue 03-Nov-09 17:15:41

Message withdrawn

QueenOfFlamingEverything Tue 03-Nov-09 17:28:39

FA - kerfuffle

Anyway a school style skirt sounds like the sort of thing that could be acceptable work wear surely - ie nothing significant.

Hassled Tue 03-Nov-09 17:32:44

We have a cross dressing man with a fondness for short black skirts who hangs around our school at pick up time - but that's because he's the father of a pupil. In July he was wearing men's clothing, by September he was in a skirt and dodgy heels. None of the kids seem to have batted an eyelid.

cornsilkwearscorsets Tue 03-Nov-09 17:33:04

What solid ghoul said.

Flightattendant Tue 03-Nov-09 19:03:48

No link, sorry it's fallen off my threads...thanks QoE for other one.

No, not nuts SG. I just said hand it over to the police. They won't act unless he is a threat. Which he probably isn't but there you go.

smee Tue 03-Nov-09 20:11:05

A man wearing a skirt's okay isn't it? He's just walking. Can't see the problem OP, really I can't.

Kitchens Tue 03-Nov-09 21:57:54

Cross dressers are not paedophiles thats an awful assumption to make.

seeker Tue 03-Nov-09 23:03:34

Has this person actually done anything except being near a school? What are you going to tell the police - there is a cross dresser in your town?

Ignore Ignore Ignore.

SolidGoldBangers Wed 04-Nov-09 09:32:55

So you want to call the police because you have seen someone dressed a bit strangely - in fact, you haven;t even seen this person yourself but you still want the police to be called? What on earth would you do if you saw a Goth, call an exorcist? This kind of witless hysteria is so depressing.

pagwatch Wed 04-Nov-09 09:41:27

I honestly don't really understand the concern. There is a similar guy near me. He walks past my house several times a day and I live opposite a school but I know where he is heading and it is the place he meets his friends.

My DD is 7 . I am not concerned about her seeing a man wearing a skirt. She asked me about it and I explained that some men like to dress in womens clothes and that it is impolite to stare.

LynetteScavo Wed 04-Nov-09 09:45:28

We have a man that wears skirts in this area.

Think Ozzy Osborn in a black school skirt. He walks like a man but wears skirts and heals. He is out and about at the same time as children, which doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Flightattendant Wed 04-Nov-09 09:46:05

Look, stop flinging insults around, nobody is being witless or hytsterical, all I said was IF Op is concerned, she could call the police on their non emergency number and have a word. They will just make a note and if the person is not known to them or in any way a threat they will likely just ignore.

Nobody is suggesting the person is a threat. I'm certainly not. When a person is cross dressing AND starts harrassing the children an/or parents then I consider that a minor threat.

Can we just get this clear, I didn't say the police are necessary in this instance, I just said the best thing to do is tell them you are worried, then they can act accordingly, or just ignore if they don't see there's any need for concern. Then OP can forget about it and hopefully it'll just come to nothing.

You're overreacting to my posts a bit SG...I know there is a social prejudice against cross dressing, but I'm not imo part of it.

cory Wed 04-Nov-09 10:24:37

Is there actually any evidence of a link between paedophilia and cross-dressing? If there is no such known link, then there would be no more reason to report this than to report a man wearing a business suit round a school, or a man wearing denims. If there is such a known connection, then fair enough.

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