all through reception i was friends with a group of 4 other mums...our dds had been at nursery school together. we went out occassionally, and last time i saw them was at a summer do. we were all drunk and i cant remember any cross words..to cut a long stort short, they still all speak to me individually, but it is clear i have been cast out of the clique, nights out have happenned and i havnt been invited etc..but they all still speak to me on the playground, and all dds are stil pally. should i just forget about them, and find some more friends or try to find out what i have done? tbh, i am hurt, but not that bothered as we didnt have much in common anyway, except our kids. but still to think you are unpopular is not nice.
I wouldn't ask anyone either as unless they know you well it may come across as a bit desperate. Next time you are all together in the playground why don't you suggest a night out. Be quite exact like, anyone busy next wednesday, lets try out that pizza place. Just see what they say. If they all say no then just keep things a little more casual. Polite at the schoool gates and that's it. Personally, I have tried to keep my distance with people in school. I will happily chat at the school gates and arrange holiday play dates but I would be unlikely to go on a night out. I just think it could get a bit messy. But that may explain why I don't have loads of friends