I came to UK from America with my DH and DS (4.5 year old) a few months ago.
DS started school this September. It is a small village school(state) and he goes to a mixed
reception/year 1 class of 30 kids. There is another straight reception class there.
He's been unable to settle: he cries most mornings before we even set off, he cries when I drop
him off and, according to the teacher, he is intermittently unhappy during the school day.
Although he is very articulate and talkative, my DH and I couldn't get out of him the causes of
his misery. He just says he dislikes the school and doesn't want to go.
I've spoken to the teacher a couple of times about it, trying to find out if she could shed some light on the problem.
The first time in September, The second, just before the half-term holidays.
Each time she would say that she was concerned as well and that she will try to
find out what the matter was and would let me know.
I've got a feeling that in between this conversations, she did not try that hard.
Is it reasonable of me to expect the teacher
- to try to find out what the problem might be.
- to actively help him settle by, for example, chatting to him when I drop him off in the morning, or
asking the TA to do that
Today, when I dropped DS off, she said she wants to talk with me in the presence of the headmaster.
I am guessing, it might mean they want to move him to the straight reception class.
I would not object to that, but the problem is I actively dislike the teacher there.
I saw her interacting with kids a few times and thought she was cold and uninvolved.
I also chatted with another mom whose son was in Mrs.C&U class last year and it turned out
she had the same opinion.
Is it OK
- to ask to sit in Mrs.C&U class for a few hours before I agree to moving my son there?
- to tell the headmaster that I did not want my son moved based on my feelings about Mrs.C&U?
My general feeling is that we made a mistake with this school, that we should
find another one with more caring teachers, but it might be, my lack of knowledge of UK school
system and of British mentality causes me to make wrong conclusions.