so got hauled into the classroom when i picked ds1 up at lunchtime today to tell me that there are some issues with his behaviour at school. i nearly cried.
yesterday he was apparently very rude and aggressive to the dinner lady and the secretary.
Now, I realise that this is unacceptable, but in his defence his father had forgotten to pick him up and he was scared and frightened and he got angry with them.
but apparently they have also had a complaint from another parent that ds1 is picking on her child and watching him this morning apparently confirmed this. they spoke to him about it but will not tell me who the other child is. I asked because I wondered if it was anyone ds1 had mentioned at home (he talks a lot about a particular boy following/chasing him around)
i have no idea what to do :-( i feel really awkward now around all the other mums because i know that one of them has an issue with my son, but I have no idea who. so whoever it is is still being all nicey-nice to me while complaining about ds1 to the school.
i just wish i knew who it was so that i could talk to ds1 about it. we've chatted in a general way but he claims to not have done anything to anyone
the problem is that he just does not talk to me about anything. he can be intensely upset about things but i just never get to the bottom of them because he refuses to talk about it, it's like getting blood from a stone
he does get aggressive, i will openly admit this. it normally manifests in growling at people, pulling angry faces, or, if people get too close he will push them
he rarely does this unprovoked though, it's just so unlike him.
as I say, he tends to bottle things up inside, and any feelings of upset or sadness come out as bursts of anger.
we do try and deal with this at home as his little brother often bears the brunt of it here
how can i encourage him to talk to me though?? i told him today thatif anything was bothering him at school then he can tell me and i will do my best to fix it, but i feel so helpless,and also sad that he is clearly having problems at school and i don't know anything about it and can'th elp him
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how to get a reticent child to talk? worried about ds's behaviour
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thisisyesterday · 22/10/2009 13:15
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