Ds is nearly 7 and just gone into yr2. He struggles generally with the concept of school and only likes the social aspect. He has been like this right from the start but obviously in reception it wasnt such a problem because it was more play structured.
In yr1 he struggled alot, got upset most mornings going into school because he just wanted to play with his friends. He was disruptive at carpet time and behind in every area. I worked on things with him at home and the school put him in smaller groups. His reading started to improve but his handwriting and concentration were still appaling.
Towards the end of yr1 I requested that the senco got invloved. She assessed ds and said that although they didn't feel that he had any sn, they did think he needed a bit of help. He was given an IEP stating that he should have 5 min handwriting practice per day, work towards better behaviour at carpet time, and to go out in a small group once a week for help with story work.
For the rest of yr1 he had all of this help and he did start to improve a little. His teacher noted that he struggled when doing work as a class and worked alot better in a small group and so when it was possible this is what they did.
Anyway, fast forward to tonight and I have just had ds's parents meeting with his yr2 teacher. She is impressed with his reading, as am I, but she said they have noticed that he doesn't seem to like being at school. I said that this was nothing new. His teacher said that when it comes to work that he doesn't like (ie writing) he sulks and moans and says he doesn't like it/can't do it. His teacher was worried that there might be something in particular that was stopping him enjoying school, but ds said that he just finds it boring. By boring he means that it's not all star wars and playing with his friends. I have major problems getting him to do homework, we have tears and tantrums every single time, but I do make him do it.
She said his concentration is still quite poor and this is holding his handwriting back. She said he can have a good day with writing but then the next day it is ilegible again. She again has noticed that he works alot better in smaller groups. She also said that he seems to need constant monitering otherwise he comes to a complete standstill.
I mentioned his handwriting help and she said she thought it was 15 min a week. I told her it should be 5 min a day and it was obvious that she hadn't really taken much notice of his iep at all. She said she is going to look at it and see what else can be done with it because it is up for review this month.
I just don't know what else i can do with ds. I have explained to him that he has to go to school and he has to do what he is asked even if it something he isn't keen on. I explained that sometimes in order to do things that you like, you first have to do some harder work. He is even getting upset this week because they are putting on a circus performance on wednesday and he doesn't want to do it and is refusing to have his face painted. I asked him why he doesn't want to do it as i'd imagine it is fun and he said it is rubbish.
As always his teacher said that ds is fab and they love having him in the class as he is such a character, and I know that is good but as I have been saying to them since reception, what is going to happen when he moves higher up the school and the workload gets bigger, will they think he is such a character then when he won't do the work.
What else can I do ??
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What do you do when they jus don't like school ??
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MrsMorgan · 19/10/2009 18:56
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